AIBU - sport taking over his life

[Mollymoppett]

Husband has always loved sport especially rugby. He’s had to finish work following an accident and now spends every Saturday on rugby things outside the home and lots of his spare time inside the home is spent watching it on tv to the point we now have separate tv rooms. My health is poor and He’s very selective as to what he does around the house ( because of his various ailments ) yet come Saturday he’s in waiting mode until he can go out. I have to take and pick up and he often comes home drunk. AIBU in feeling resentful at this or should I just fill the time with things I enjoy and not be bothered.

Surely he can drive himself? I wouldn’t be driving him there and picking him up especially if he can’t be bothered to help you at home.

Why are you cheuffering him around?

You are not being unreasonable; the current arrangement sounds unbalanced. A practical solution would be to agree on clear household responsibilities, limit how often you are expected to provide lifts, and make sure you also have protected time for rest and your own interests.

If you’re both dealing with significant health issues that’s pretty hard. It sounds as if you are barely a partnership at the moment.

Can he drive, or is there a prospect of him being able to, with an adapted car for example? Or is there money for taxis, or friends who would pick him up at least some of the time?

I don't think sports are taking over his life per se... more so that he's just being a selfish git tbh.

Is he incapable of helping around the house, or just lazy? Why can't he drive himself or get a bus to social Saturday - you absolutely don't need to be chauffeuring him.

What do you do for you?

When he's at the rugby do you have hobbies that you enjoy? If not then it's time for you to put yourself first OP.

I would also stop picking him up drunk. Has his accident left him unable to drive or take public transport? It all seems very unfair on you to be his taxi service when our own health is not good.

If he’s capable of going out every week getting rotten with the ‘lads’ I don’t see how he isn’t capable of getting a job.