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Was my PT wrong to divulge this embarrassing story

29 replies

Ziphuay · 02/07/2026 20:04

I see a PT once a week, in our session yesterday I broke wind loudly mid session and we both laughed. I was mortified inside, he’s quite attractive and it was embarrassing. He also trains a friend of mine, who he saw this morning. She messaged me earlier along the lines of ‘I can’t believe what happened to you with Sam yesterday, you must have wanted the ground to swallow you up 😂‘.

Is it me or does him telling her seem a bit off? I am struggling to see the funny side.

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Mischance · 02/07/2026 20:05

Absolutely unprofessional.

Nicknackpaddywack16 · 02/07/2026 20:06

Yes. That was unprofessional and immature of him to share, especially to your friend.

mondaytosunday · 02/07/2026 20:08

Yea that’s unprofessional. It’s one thing you breaking wind and the PT saying ‘don’t worry happens all the time’ and ‘ha don’t worry your mate Sheila let a huge one rip yesterday’! I’d tell him not to discuss you with other clients, but it will of course change the dynamic even if he’s in the wrong. And your friend should have told him too.

mylifeisexams · 02/07/2026 20:10

I’d get rid of him and tell him why. Also your friend sounds really immature.

Lmnop22 · 02/07/2026 20:19

He shouldn’t have shared it, but he might not have seen the harm since you laughed about it yesterday and didn’t seem embarrassed about it

ComtesseDeSpair · 02/07/2026 20:21

I’m amazed he even remembered it to tell. Farts happen all the time at the gym, it’s just one of those things the body sometimes does when exerting strain. He’s unprofessional and unless he’s an absolutely unparalleled PT, I’d start looking elsewhere, you have to be able to trust a PT not to gossip about your body with others.

Bleachedjeans · 02/07/2026 20:23

And why did your friend repeat it?

Thecows · 02/07/2026 20:23

Yes id be very annoyed too

nocoolnamesleft · 02/07/2026 20:24

Very unprofessional.

Offherrockingchair · 02/07/2026 20:34

I’d find another PT. It’s a breach of confidentiality.

Branleuse · 02/07/2026 20:35

I'd change pt

NoisyMonster678 · 02/07/2026 20:36

He should have kept his big mouth shut, he is unprofessional, insensitive and careless.

BennyHenny · 02/07/2026 20:41

Not sure what him being attractive has to do with it! But unprofessional of him to presumably have a laugh at your expense with your friend.

Flatinbed · 02/07/2026 20:43

Has he said anything else? I'd be really pissed off.

worldshottestmom · 02/07/2026 20:52

Throwing you under the bus to impress your mate. What a wanker. Do not give him any more money. Oh, and NEVER keep friends who use your embarrassment to make fun of you, as clearly, they're not friends.

40notouttoday · 02/07/2026 20:54

Ex PT and fitness trainer here - Rather than laughing he should be focusing on getting you to engage your deep abs and pelvic floor while training absolutely LOADS of people do it especially when squatting/lunging. Don't give it another thought but I'd be questioning if he's the right trainer for you.

dunroamingfornow · 02/07/2026 20:58

mylifeisexams · 02/07/2026 20:10

I’d get rid of him and tell him why. Also your friend sounds really immature.

This. It’s extremely unprofessional.

JellyCatOnAHotTinRoof · 02/07/2026 20:59

Wow that’s weird of him to say. In addition to making you mistrust him in future, surely your friend, and anyone else he’s shared this with, will know he’s got loose lips. Stupid business decision.

Whyarentmysquashesthriving · 02/07/2026 21:20

Yeah I think he's just lost a customer there.

Pippa12 · 02/07/2026 21:22

I would hate this behaviour. I wouldn’t go again.

Darragon · 02/07/2026 21:25

Lmnop22 · 02/07/2026 20:19

He shouldn’t have shared it, but he might not have seen the harm since you laughed about it yesterday and didn’t seem embarrassed about it

People shouldn’t have to turn on the histrionics for others to know not to be a twat and embarrass them like that. The time to tell a “my client farted” story to that client’s friend is never. It’s just basic.

Ethelspagetti · 02/07/2026 21:32

If he had to tell the story why didn’t he not mention names?! He embarrassed you by talking about you behind your back to other clients. That’s extremely unprofessional. I used to go to a yoga class as we all broke wind in certain positions. No one cared one bit! Instructor didn’t mention it at all. I don’t think this is the right trainer for you. Look into swapping him or ending the contract when you can.

GoodGuessButNotRight · 02/07/2026 23:03

Change PT.

LadyContrary · 02/07/2026 23:06

Absolutely agree with pp. Change pt and make sure he knows why. It’s not a big deal at all, everyone does it at the gym but laughing at it with your mate??? Beyond unprofessional.

AnnieGetYourBun · 03/07/2026 05:09

I'd feel like sacking him. Outrageous and totally his problem.

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