AIBU to want to know what my 18 yr old is up to?
i don’t mean ‘up to’ in a bad way, i just mean generally 🤷♀️ like who he is with, what he’s doing, where he goes?
18yr old DS, at uni (though not really enjoying it - we aren’t in the UK so it’s a bit different here), has a lovely girlfriend, a part time summer job, generally quite pleasant and nice when he’s home though mostly he’s in his room / the shower when he’s here.
i realised recently that we haven’t had a proper conversation for months. I work full time - 42 hours and mostly out of the house, he’s out most evenings, I go to bed before he gets in usually. About 2 months ago we did speak about him changing courses, but it hasn’t got any further than that I think.
He doesn’t drink much, too expensive and fattening. I am 99% sure that he’s vaping, and smoking a bit of dope with his friends. He has always been very sociable, lots friends living locally (also at home) and others are back for summer so he’s out pretty much every night.
I don’t know if it’s mum-spider-senses that something is going on… or just that I miss him 🤷♀️ it’s daft really, when I was at uni I didn’t speak to my parents for weeks at a time, and they had no idea what I was up to (just as well as they would not have approved 😱).
i think I might need to make an appointment to speak with him! Is this normal?