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To think some people are in relationships with the idea of being understood

34 replies

VagueAndProfound · 02/06/2026 16:48

The actual person is secondary.

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Dermatologically · 02/06/2026 16:49

I'm afraid I find this just vague rather than profound

Swiftie1878 · 02/06/2026 16:50

Same.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 02/06/2026 16:51

Agreed. Vague but not really profound.

Weeellokthen · 02/06/2026 16:51

Dermatologically · 02/06/2026 16:49

I'm afraid I find this just vague rather than profound

😂isn't it just. Someone is bored. Wonder how many others will respond 🤔

whitefluffydog · 02/06/2026 16:59

A boy or a girl in secondary school, has entered into a relationship just because no one at home understands them but they want to be understood and valued??

whitefluffydog · 02/06/2026 16:59

whitefluffydog · 02/06/2026 16:59

A boy or a girl in secondary school, has entered into a relationship just because no one at home understands them but they want to be understood and valued??

Nothing new under the sun. This is how many teenage relationships start

plims · 02/06/2026 17:01

All of us should want to be in a relationship in which we feel understood.

Asofawithaview · 02/06/2026 17:01

Honestly OP, how do you have time to come up with all these hypothetical questions?

SinceYouSaySo · 02/06/2026 17:06

If the sky weren't blue
But instead were pink
Would you swim
Or would you sink

Discuss

VagueAndProfound · 02/06/2026 17:15

SinceYouSaySo · 02/06/2026 17:06

If the sky weren't blue
But instead were pink
Would you swim
Or would you sink

Discuss

If the sky were pink instead of blue, swimming and sinking would become the same thing. One would just look more poetic from a distance.

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SinceYouSaySo · 02/06/2026 17:15

VagueAndProfound · 02/06/2026 17:15

If the sky were pink instead of blue, swimming and sinking would become the same thing. One would just look more poetic from a distance.

Great answer. Is this how we're meant to approach your question? With poetry?

VagueAndProfound · 02/06/2026 17:19

SinceYouSaySo · 02/06/2026 17:15

Great answer. Is this how we're meant to approach your question? With poetry?

Maybe poetry is just what language becomes when a question is too strange to survive as logic.

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plims · 02/06/2026 17:22

You’re making no sense now.

SinceYouSaySo · 02/06/2026 17:26

Some people are in relationships with the idea of being understood
It's a thought that could be seen as bad or good
Do they want comfort, warmth and cheer
A fellow companion to lend an ear?

Could they also just want to be seen
When the wider world seems cruel and mean
Do they sacrifice all that they could
For the quest to be understood

Zov · 02/06/2026 17:28

Like... wut? Confused

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plims · 02/06/2026 17:35

SinceYouSaySo · 02/06/2026 17:26

Some people are in relationships with the idea of being understood
It's a thought that could be seen as bad or good
Do they want comfort, warmth and cheer
A fellow companion to lend an ear?

Could they also just want to be seen
When the wider world seems cruel and mean
Do they sacrifice all that they could
For the quest to be understood

??

SinceYouSaySo · 02/06/2026 17:35

plims · 02/06/2026 17:35

??

I have no idea. I was trying to be vague and profound.

VagueAndProfound · 02/06/2026 17:40

SinceYouSaySo · 02/06/2026 17:26

Some people are in relationships with the idea of being understood
It's a thought that could be seen as bad or good
Do they want comfort, warmth and cheer
A fellow companion to lend an ear?

Could they also just want to be seen
When the wider world seems cruel and mean
Do they sacrifice all that they could
For the quest to be understood

To be understood
is to quantumly synchronise
the metaphysical frequencies
of two emotionally laminated beings.

Perhaps love itself
is just advanced pattern recognition
performed by lonely primates
with poetic delusions.

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plims · 02/06/2026 17:44

VagueAndProfound · 02/06/2026 17:40

To be understood
is to quantumly synchronise
the metaphysical frequencies
of two emotionally laminated beings.

Perhaps love itself
is just advanced pattern recognition
performed by lonely primates
with poetic delusions.

You’re just writing word salads that don’t actually mean anything

Brenzaida · 02/06/2026 17:46

There's a real stream of these nonsensical 'here is a line from Instagram' posts lately.

VagueAndProfound · 02/06/2026 18:20

plims · 02/06/2026 17:44

You’re just writing word salads that don’t actually mean anything

Word salad” is what people call language
when they can’t digest abstraction.
Not every sentence is obligated
to arrive wearing jeans and a name tag.

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Brenzaida · 02/06/2026 18:22

VagueAndProfound · 02/06/2026 18:20

Word salad” is what people call language
when they can’t digest abstraction.
Not every sentence is obligated
to arrive wearing jeans and a name tag.

Respectfully, 'abstraction' does not mean what you think it means.

plims · 02/06/2026 18:25

VagueAndProfound · 02/06/2026 18:20

Word salad” is what people call language
when they can’t digest abstraction.
Not every sentence is obligated
to arrive wearing jeans and a name tag.

No. It’s because your words are so vague, convoluted, and abstract that they fail to communicate any intelligent meaning. Communication isn’t improved by being obscure for the sake of it. if readers can’t reasonably work out what you’re trying to say, the problem is your writing

VagueAndProfound · 02/06/2026 18:32

Brenzaida · 02/06/2026 18:22

Respectfully, 'abstraction' does not mean what you think it means.

Some sentences are architecture, not directions.

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