AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

[CanyonRider]

I live in a small town. I started having therapy maybe a year ago. I feel it’s been working for me and I like my therapist. However I realised today that she is (very very recently) married to a man who recently stood and won as a reform councillor in our local election. I detest reform. I’m married to an immigrant (EU citizen) and am delighted that my kids are dual nationals and have the option of travelling, working and living in the EU should they desire. I’m also very pro the transition to green energy. I have solar and drive an EV. Finally I cannot stand Farage and the political grift embodied by people like him and Jenrick and am dismayed by the harms caused by Brexit.

My therapist is also an EU national and is here under indefinite leave to remain - as is my wife.
Read a few interviews with her husband today and he spouts the usual anti EU, anti immigration, anti green transition rhetoric you’d expect from Reform. I don’t feel comfortable continuing therapy with someone who’s married to a reform politician, and am very surprised that she is comfortable with his views and by extension those of Farage.

Am I overreacting?

I don’t agree with your views. However, your views are your own and you don’t need strangers online to validate them. If you feel
stopping seeing this therapist is best for you then crack on. However, what if the next one supports reform? What if they support something else you disagree with? When would it stop?

Good point. Good luck finding’s a centrist therapist.
As both far left and far right are agitators who enjoy causing harm and division inciting violence.
Two sides of the same coin full of whataboutary
a excuses.

OK, so a Jewish person can make sure her therapist isn't part of the Free Palestine movement.

Some Jewish people support the Free Palestine movement so I guess it depends on the individual Jewish person, their beliefs and what they feel comfortable with.

I would assume few Jewish people would continue to give their money to a therapist they found out was part of the free Palestine movement.

Your whataboutery is strange - do you not understand that you are negatively judged for holding extreme positions by those who don’t hold them and/or would be negatively impacted if those positions were implemented?

It’s like lots of Reform supporters are genuinely shocked that they will be judged for their views. This is something that happens in real life. As I said early on, the OP should tell the therapist why she’s cancelling, because I really think some reform supporters just haven’t twigged being public in their support could have knock on effects if they are self employed.

I thought you'd somehow find a difference between what you see as racism from a political party to hate speech on rallies. What knock on effect should a Reform voters expect from their employer? This is all getting very tiresome this justifying racism and fascism on the side you don't like to admit it comes from. Teachers and other public sector professionals have been seen at the marches with coconut slogans about ethnic minority politicians among other racist material. So I revert back to the point I made on hypocrisy. You can only bury your head in the sand for so long.

Emphasis on some; the minority. That doesn't override the fact that it's no different to the OP's case.

This post made me think about the fact that therapists must regularly be having clients whose views they disagree with, political religious or, perhaps most importantly, lifestyle choices, such as child rearing.

I wonder how therapists cope with the daily reality of supporting people to do something they actively disapprove of?
For example, suppose the client is a young mother who believes passionately in one form of child rearing and the therapist is passionately in the opposite camp.

Can the therapist honestly put their own preferences to one side and support the client to succeed in something the therapist privately believes with a passion is all wrong?

I cant believe a therapist can do this without cracks appearing in the relationship and the client is wondering what went wrong.

You take issues like that to supervision.

I guess that’s the theory, but I can’t help feeling that’s not a complete solution.
Must be sometimes a patching up after something’s happened.
Suggests to me a difficulty with the ‘invisible’ therapist idea.
Perhaps it’s better if therapists do disclose information about themselves to prevent client being harmed by unexplained involuntary hostile reactions from therapist.

It's not a theory. It's what you do if you're ethically responsible and take your work seriously.

What I meant was, yes it’s an answer, but I wonder whether it does’nt lessen the problem rather than deal with the problem.
I think it’s okay to discuss issues like this; sounds a little to me like you’re seeing this as an attack? 🤔

Really it’s the same question as OP but put in a more generalised way.