AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

[CanyonRider]

I live in a small town. I started having therapy maybe a year ago. I feel it’s been working for me and I like my therapist. However I realised today that she is (very very recently) married to a man who recently stood and won as a reform councillor in our local election. I detest reform. I’m married to an immigrant (EU citizen) and am delighted that my kids are dual nationals and have the option of travelling, working and living in the EU should they desire. I’m also very pro the transition to green energy. I have solar and drive an EV. Finally I cannot stand Farage and the political grift embodied by people like him and Jenrick and am dismayed by the harms caused by Brexit.

My therapist is also an EU national and is here under indefinite leave to remain - as is my wife.
Read a few interviews with her husband today and he spouts the usual anti EU, anti immigration, anti green transition rhetoric you’d expect from Reform. I don’t feel comfortable continuing therapy with someone who’s married to a reform politician, and am very surprised that she is comfortable with his views and by extension those of Farage.

Am I overreacting?

Yes, racist teenage boys say racist things, and ignorant and indulgent people let them and say ‘it was ages ago’ when it comes up in adulthood.

You understand that being, say, pro Hindu doesn’t inoculate someone against being, say, anti-Semitic, don’t you? You know what divide and rule is?

ETA I don’t know how many are named

How many of the complainants are Jewish or ethnic minority?

Thanks, you’re right - I read one story and linked the later one.

Which tells you that is not cut and dried
snd therefore not a claim that should be loudly made without more analysts. The ONS (ETA Census) data is the more reliable (bigger data set, better quality control). But of course Farage isn’t in the business of accuracy.

For the same reason, I don’t know. And I’m not sure why it matters. Why is it important to you?

Some people did actually go defend him.

Rev Neil Fairlamb, a former Dulwich teacher, also gave a broadly defensive account. The Guardian reported that he “agrees” with Emms’s view, said he did not see racism in Farage.

Don't attribute others with your predjuces. Most people allow others to have a different point of view. I'm always happy to debate politics and wouldn't never just dismiss people with an opposing view.

You're the one that's misguided.

Also, not all Polish builders are racist

Indeed - Tomas the Polish builder told the Guardian that 'most Polish people don't like Indians and black people.'

The other Guardian article reported;
According to a study in 2013 by the Centre for Research on Prejudice – a professional academic centre at the University of Warsaw – as many as 69% of Poles do not want non-white people living in their country.

I am still somewhat bemused why Guardian readers were so keen on freedom of movement with countries such as Poland.

I see that Poland has refused to take any quota of asylum seekers from the EU's new scheme, and that Poland's biggest trade union organised a march last week protesting the EU's green policies. The op's worst nightmare.

I think it probably does matter if 5/6 Jewish and ethnic minority former pupils have complained about him and 3/4 have defended him.

I get the sense that you are glad you got that one off your chest 🤣

I never said I wanted Labour to win. Either the Makerfield election or the next GE.

My reason for puncturing Burnham is his misogynistic, sexist comments that devalued women as a sex class because he was trying to "be kind" (get votes). Any politician doing that is the subject of my ire.

I have said here a thousand times, I am a single issue voter, it's this issue, transgender ideologies intersection with women's rights, nothing more, nothing less.

I just had to google Kenyon's first name, I had no clue, and unless I missed it above, nobody linked to anything either.

You might want to have a look at the BACP code of conduct, it sets this out really clearly.

Most people who come to counselling have been through some kind of trauma or significant difficulty, which can include experiences of discrimination. Reaching out for support takes a huge amount of courage, so it’s really important that the professional body ensures its members are equipped to honour that. Counsellors need to create a genuinely safe, respectful space for anyone who comes to them, especially when someone is feeling vulnerable. That also means offering a fair and inclusive service to people from all parts of society.

Being a counsellor also involves a strong commitment to self-awareness. It’s not a one-off thing - you need to keep reflecting on your own beliefs, values, and potential biases, and actively work on them. Supervision plays a big part in this too, both in supporting your own practice and in helping strengthen the wider counselling community.

It isn’t at all unreasonable for the OP to ask her counsellor about this.

I see. So all 28 people are liars, then?

Why would they bother? They must have known that the majority of his supporters wouldn't be troubled by his history of racially abusing people and would, as you have done, dismiss it. Some of them would probably cheer him on if he did the same today.

The nf in your user name is stating to make sense now...

.This story would concern me if I was seeing a therapist whose husband was a Reform councillor, in fact as a woman it concerns me full stop https://www.theguardian.com/politics/2026/may/26/carol-vorderman-demands-apology-reform-candidate-robert-kenyon?CMP=share_btn_url

He's praised Indian Hindu immigrants to the UK

This has been trotted out by you a couple of times in the thread. It has shades of the old I can't be racist, my friend is...

Only a racist would use this poster to politically campaign.

Of course you didn't say you wanted Labour to win.
You stated the opposite, that you hoped that people would be put off a Burnham vote by your posting of the clip where he (stupidly) said he thought it was a small minority of women who didn't want TIMs in their spaces.
Alongside this he also said that the 'minority' as he saw it, needed to be accommodated and used the term 'biological males', all four years ago. He has since said his position has changed and committed to the SCJ. Which hardly identifies him as the world's greatest trans ally, does it?
Now you've googled Kenyon, if you lived in Makerfield, would you still rather have him as your daughters representative than Burnham in this two horse race?

Does it? The man who raped me and broke two of my ribs had a sister, a mother, several previous and one current girlfriend give character evidence that he was a great guy. Does that mean I’m lying? Or is it possible that people are different to different people?

My husband and I have completely different political views and enjoy our stimulating discussions.

Why would they bother?

Some of the witnesses clearly lied when they claimed that they were not politically motivated in coming forward (they signed an open letter published by the Guardian in which they claimed; 'The accusation that we are politically motivated is false').

Lengthy rant from one of the signatories/witnesses on Facebook;

'I am a named person, have been since 3 weeks and was on itv yesterday three times on all news broadcasts. Jeepers. Nothing like discussing with an oaf who can’t even read up, but spouts utter drivel, continuous. Like I said, pipe down. You’re just proving to all and sundry what a dimwit Reform voter sucks up as fact and spews forth. Thanks for that, I guess'

'Sorry. If you're going to come on here and talk twaddle - then face facts, or become a coward like you like to bandy about concerning everyone else. Thing is, I know NF. We went to school together. In the same class. I know the people he bullied. Read up, won't you. So telling me to have a proper debate and simultaneously spouting your fragile grasp of uncorroborated statistics really is risible playground material. What you have clearly not a dickiebird clue about is that your hero - who caused the sea of economic and social problems - is the problem the country has. No good you twaddling on about labour this, tory that, IMF, price and incomes policies, ted heaths power cuts, the oil crisis, des healeys nationalisation, Maggies poll tax, etc etc - your idiot hero caused the mess that we are living in NOW. And he wants to fix it?? Please, just pipe down and keep quiet. That way you don't have to expose to people that you really are daft as...'

'Thankfully, the coward that is NF hasn't made it to PM since then you'd need to be privately insured and will cough up handsomely...'
'and then there's all the money he's taking from abroad... which when trickie Dickie Tice went on about how unfair it was that George Soros donated to his opponents, twaddled on about how unfair it was.'

'Jesus… you really are thick as a pile of 4x2. Do you read anything? Can you even? Do you have the capacity? Everything you’ve stated, or dreamt, I’ve proven false. What a pathetic example you are. Drink some Horlicks and go to bed. When you’re sober, re-read. Leave the meths alone...'
'hahahaha. Keep on repeating. Facts in tatters. Reason - gone. Love to see roasted gaslighting gammon Maybe have a glass of wine, might give you some solace. Enjoy your band of proven traitors.'

Another witness/signatory to the letter;

'Fucking finally. I hope the Tories and Reform traitors are shitting themselves. We still need a proper http://Leave.EU investigation. The Tories “did not want to know” if Russia interfered in Brexit. Probably because they all profited from it.'

Another;

(1/10) Reform UK now have multiple viable paths to power in Britain. And it couldn’t be clearer: the establishment press is extremely unlikely to scrutinise it properly. Help us hold Reform to account in 2026 with a massive new wave of investigations...

Links to where this info is from would be good. Ta v much

Person knows a man in real life, has awful
memories of him from over several years.

Person watches that man become successful of the back of things they consider to be false (many of which are proven to be lies).

Person uses their own social media to reject accusations that they are lying about man, because some people who feel politically aligned think they know him.

That seems personally motivated to me, rather than political. But you’ve shown us who you are so no point engaging with you any further.

I found the lengthy rant on Reunite EU - British European Rejoiners Facebook Group 17th December 2025 - thread title Nigel Farage has been told to apologise... - comments by Jean-Pierre Lihou (I have edited - there is more).

The others I think I found on Twitter - Nicholas Cannon to Byline Times is one, if I remember correctly.

Person knows a man in real life, has awful memories of him from over several years.

Does he have awful memories of Farage? Lihou was a former friend, not one of the alleged victims.

Lihou is also a Facebook member of:

European Movement UK, Rejoin EU, The British Pro-European Political Blog, The Very Brexit Problems Club, Fife4Europe, Cambridge for Europe [Top Fan], Leeds for Europe...

Come now don’t be so modest. You obviously spend a lot of your time monitoring the views, thoughts, morals and opinions of those that don’t share your views.

Then why are you citing him? Why do you find it so easy to disbelieve people of ethnic minority who say they were bullied, and yet so hard to imagine why NF would himself lie?

The answer is obvious of course, but maybe you have some reason.