AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

[CanyonRider]

I live in a small town. I started having therapy maybe a year ago. I feel it’s been working for me and I like my therapist. However I realised today that she is (very very recently) married to a man who recently stood and won as a reform councillor in our local election. I detest reform. I’m married to an immigrant (EU citizen) and am delighted that my kids are dual nationals and have the option of travelling, working and living in the EU should they desire. I’m also very pro the transition to green energy. I have solar and drive an EV. Finally I cannot stand Farage and the political grift embodied by people like him and Jenrick and am dismayed by the harms caused by Brexit.

My therapist is also an EU national and is here under indefinite leave to remain - as is my wife.
Read a few interviews with her husband today and he spouts the usual anti EU, anti immigration, anti green transition rhetoric you’d expect from Reform. I don’t feel comfortable continuing therapy with someone who’s married to a reform politician, and am very surprised that she is comfortable with his views and by extension those of Farage.

Am I overreacting?

It has EVERYTHING to do with racism or rather accusations of in order to get the upper hand.

You’ve found a therapist that you like and have been seeing for about a year. You say this seems to be helpful for you.
It seems a shame to give this up because you disagree with her husbands political stance.
She hasn’t become a different person just because she’s got married, so why judge her for her partners beliefs.

This is rage and insanity.

Look at this:
In 2025 there were over 97000 incidents of rape recorded. In 2024 over 70k in 2023, around 70k. This is from the ONS (not the Daily Mail).

There's a full fact article that discusses it more:
fullfact.org/crime/what-do-we-know-about-ethnicity-people-involved-sexual-offences-against-children/

The majority of crimes committed are by white men, because the population is majority white. Not because one race is inherently more criminal.

It frustrates me to think that you feel that no one else is a victim of crime. You are foolish to think so. Not everyone is about "MEEEEE ", or however it is you express yourself.

"I'mhoppingmad" says a lot about you ...I'm fearful you're a bot....

The Manchester airport brothers seem to have done ok and, doubtless wouldn’t have been charged if it wasn’t for public opinion. A mob descended on the police station demanding they be released the day it happened. No arrests. I’d like to see a mob descend on the Southampton police station that employed the officers who ignored poor, dying, Henry Nowak’s pleas that he couldn’t breathe. There’s no question arrests and charges would follow pronto.

The Manchester two won’t even serve time for the attacks on the male officer as, after two trials the jury wouldn’t agree on a guilty verdict. Disgusting and the particular jurors that refused to do so should be ashamed.

I’d like to see a mob descend on the Southampton police station that employed the officers who ignored poor, dying, Henry Nowak’s pleas that he couldn’t breathe.

Nothing is stopping you from organising this.

Inciting violence is not the answer though, is it?

Totally agree with this. Therapy is a very intimate process, and you need ultimate trust in your therapist. If this has made you feel uncomfortable about her, your therapy won't be effective. I hear what other posters are saying - I wouldn't give a damn if the cashier in the bank voted for Reform - this is a democracy, and that's their private business - but I do understand that with a therapist there needs to be total faith, and you have lost this with her.

I phrased that wrong, apologies. What I intended to say was I’d like to see what would happen to the mob if they descended on the police station à la the Manchester Airport incident.

FWIW I don’t agree with mob violence regardless of who’s involved and I certainly wouldn’t attempt to organise one but hey ho.

All this is going to do is embolden Reform even more. I don't think these lefties are as intelligent as they think.

So, just because we have plenty of white men raping women in the UK, you think it's a good idea to allow more men into the Country, who are undocumented and are from cultures where rape isn't a crime? Is that what you are really saying : that there's plenty of rapes anyway, so let's just allow some more....what's a few extra rapes when there are already so many?

And this comment :
It frustrates me to think that you feel that no one else is a victim of crime. You are foolish to think so. Not everyone is about "MEEEEE ", or however it is you express yourself I honestly don't even know what comment you're trying to make? My point was directed to the previous poster who said that she lived near illegal immigrants and had not been attacked. My point was that many women have been attacked though, and it's not all about YOOOOOO.

You seem very sure of the motives of the police officers involved in this tragic case, but you still haven’t shared any evidence to back that up. So I remain sceptical.

I suspect it had more to do the fact that poor Henry Nowak was hardly in a position to defend himself when questioned by police.

The brothers you mention were charged and then tried twice. The fact that neither jury could reach a verdict does not mean that they were given preferential treatment by the police.

Glad to hear you’re not a fan of mob violence, but you could organise a protest if you felt strongly enough. You’ve got some support on the thread.

So now you’re blaming ‘the left’ a kind of faceless blob I suppose, for a jury being unable to reach a verdict?

It’s very confusing. The left are responsible for the police handcuffing Henry Nowak and for failing to reach a verdict on the Manchester airport case. But somehow the left had no influence on the guilty verdict for Vickrum Digwa.

I’d have support from most of the country!

Your arguments seem driven by hatred. We need immigration. We need people to work in the UK. Not all male immigrants are rapists, you do know that don't you?

I don't really understand what you mean by " YOOOO ". You write in quite a sensationalist manner.

Then go for it. You feel strongly about it and you believe you’d have massive support. What’s actually stopping you?

It would be a deal breaker for me. I would end a friendship if I found out someone was a reform supporter.

Yet it's so easy to blob the right together - almost like calling them far right.

I feel strongly about lots of things, doesn’t mean I have to organise protests and besides I’m off on my hols next week 🌞

No not really. The far right tend towards racism and fascism. If you're happy with that, then I would as suggest you read more widely. Frankly, I'm not sure how comfortable you are with that.

Maybe if that poster feels so strongly about Reform, she could go up against them. Have a great holiday 😀

She had better make sure her new therapist has no links with Free Palestine then - plenty of fascism and racism going on at those marches. It's good to be consistent with what makes you comfortable, otherwise you'd come across as being a hypocrite.

That's really made me laugh.

Yes. Glad people are finally agreeing, someone with extremist views (even if those extreme views are popular) do not make good therapists.

Bur the big issue that the “hypocrite” allegation doesn’t address is that the OPs DP is an immigrant, it is uniquely difficult for the OP to trust the judgement about her family relationships from the therapist who supports Reform. (Or if doesn’t support reform, is comfortable enough with their positions to marry someone who holds those views.)