AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

[CanyonRider]

I live in a small town. I started having therapy maybe a year ago. I feel it’s been working for me and I like my therapist. However I realised today that she is (very very recently) married to a man who recently stood and won as a reform councillor in our local election. I detest reform. I’m married to an immigrant (EU citizen) and am delighted that my kids are dual nationals and have the option of travelling, working and living in the EU should they desire. I’m also very pro the transition to green energy. I have solar and drive an EV. Finally I cannot stand Farage and the political grift embodied by people like him and Jenrick and am dismayed by the harms caused by Brexit.

My therapist is also an EU national and is here under indefinite leave to remain - as is my wife.
Read a few interviews with her husband today and he spouts the usual anti EU, anti immigration, anti green transition rhetoric you’d expect from Reform. I don’t feel comfortable continuing therapy with someone who’s married to a reform politician, and am very surprised that she is comfortable with his views and by extension those of Farage.

Am I overreacting?

To use that well known expression, Where's the laughing emoji! I don't think the snobs are coming out of this quite well.

Yes.
But don’t take my word for it (as if you would).

Type into google ‘Does the uk government release data on asylum seeker crime rates?’

Sorry, but you are right!

The government can't publish data that isn't collected. But I guess you think that is a conspiracy too.

Who are the snobs then?

Lihou is not from an ethnic minority although I think he is half-German.

I doubted one of the alleged victims because I wasn't convinced he had reliably identified Farage as his abuser - certainly his description would not stand up in court (I am not doubting that he was abused by persons unknown). The alleged victim only attended the school for one year in the junior school, he didn't know Farage's name at the time but said he recognised Farage in adulthood 'from his walk', he doesn't have any witnesses to corroborate his story, he originally claimed that Farage was aged 18 and that he was aged 9 - however both men are listed on Companies House which shows the month and year they were born - Farage was aged 15, mostly 16 when the alleged victim was aged 9 (the victim later changed his account of their ages - several times in fact), he described Farage as 'very tall' and standing with two others ... I think there is some doubt as to whether the victim has identified the right person.

I have no reason to doubt Peter Ettedgui's account - "Hitler was right" - he said Farage was aged 13 or 14 at the time.

Allisnotlost1
But you’ve shown us who you are

I'm a Brexit voting Conservative - I have no reason to change my vote on either count.

I'm not sure why you keep on wanting to lure me into something. It's perfectly clear that a number of posters think they are superior. Refusing to associate oneself with one who supports a different political party is fascist. I meant to get back to you on your earlier question you posed to me on fascism. To lump a whole conglomerate of voters and conclude they are racist is devoid of any semblance of critical thinking. This means so much to the OP that she's hardly returned to her own thread. I do hope she finds a more suitable therapist.

I'm a therapist and I don't think you're being at all unreasonable

You think they don’t have data on nationality, immigration status, age, sex etc?

Come on now.

The person who referenced Lihou was you. He is not a victim, and no-one claimed he is.

You stated that you had doubts if some ethnic minority people made allegations, but some defended him. I find it quite shocking that you cannot see how dangerous that is. I can only imagine you’ve never been victimised by an outwardly charming and successful person. This is precisely why serial offenders are able to get away with it for so long.

We simply do not know for certain whether NF said these things, we have a bunch of evidence and will choose who to believe based on our own impressions. None of your doubts seem particularly striking to me - despite your obvious investment in investigating the victims. However it does seem telling that, when some of the allegations were first put to him in 2013, NF said he had said things but that they may or may not be racist. Now, with more to lose and in a harsher social climate, he denies ever saying such things. Why would he change on that if he didn’t have anything to hide?

We’re miles off topic now and I’m reminded of that saying about wrestling with pigs. Have a lovely evening.

If you think asking you to justify what you say is trying to lure you into something, feel free to interpret it that way.

Why would ONS lie? Come on now, answer me that.

Crime by nationality and immigration status 2025 - Office for National Statistics https://share.google/zPIx9zSOfGzUuFpa0

Eta: if there was some sort of conspiracy to cover up crime data by ethnicity etc. why would they not also deny collecting data on ethnicity and country of birth?

Oh, I like to monitor what's going on, yes. But I do it on my own terms and don't waste energy pretending that I think the racists might genuinely have a valid argument. Because I already know that they don't.

The person who referenced Lihou was you. He is not a victim, and no-one claimed he is

You certainly implied that Lihou was a victim up thread.

You stated that you had doubts if some ethnic minority people made allegations, but some defended him

No, I didn't - you have misrepresented my post.

None of your doubts seem particularly striking to me - despite your obvious investment in investigating the victims

I mostly googled the 'witnesses'.

One thing I did notice was a concerted effort by many to exaggerate Farage's age in their accounts - often by several years. A few others repeated hearsay.

We’re miles off topic now and I’m reminded of that saying about wrestling with pigs. Have a lovely evening.

I don't know why you came back - you had already announced you were not engaging with me further.

How so?

That poster did huge harm. Ironically ( or was it) Bexit opened the doors to more immigration of the sort that is despised.

Refusing to associate oneself with one who supports a different political party is fascist
Keep em coming! Quite the comic aren't you?

What would be the reason for Tory and Labour governments not to publish this data if it is centrally collected? Why would consecutive governments want to "support a narrative"?

Much of their answer refers to victims of crime - otherwise they are directing you elsewhere;

We do not hold breakdowns of crime by asylum seeker or migrant status.
The Ministry of Justice (MoJ) are primarily responsible for data on offenders, prosecutions and convictions, and may be able to help you further with your enquiry...

What's bad about the poster? Have the EU states who were very welcoming benefited?

Do the locals feel safer?

That vile poster made me vote Remain, I was undecided before it appeared. I doubt I am unique in that response to it!

A failure of post-Brexit policy.

Again have EU nations who accepted refugees on mass benefited? Compare them to have staunchly opposed this.

Definitely not. Find someone who doesn't condone such inhumane treatment of others.