To think DH should not have finished my dessert

[Mamma47448]

I bought a tiramisu from a supermarket yesterday. It was maybe 10 cm squared.

DH doesn’t usually buy desserts, he prefers to make them fresh. So I buy for myself and offer him some and sometimes he says yes. I think of them as mine though I’m usually happy to share. We don’t have a dessert every night.

I ate about 20% of it yesterday - it was delicious but it’s pretty rich and few spoonfuls are enough. I cut another 20% today after dinner for myself. I reminded DH we had tiramisu if he wanted some.

Baby was crying so I rushed through the tiramisu and went to settle them. I came back to find the rest of the tiramisu had gone! DH said I had eaten “half” (!) (Tbf he probably didn’t know I had some yesterday) so he had the other “half”. I’d been thinking I was going to save some for tomorrow. I’ve just looked at the box and it says it is 4 portions.

Is it fair to think of the desserts as mine? (DH is very generous with his baking but he’d definitely comment if I scoffed down most of his biscuits or whatever.)

Was it fair for DH to eat the rest of what I thought was my dessert?

Would it have been fair for me to have three portions (one yesterday, one today, one tomorrow) while DH has just one?

Semi-lighthearted. I’ll provide a bit more context later.

YABU. What a selfish way to live

Just buy more tiramisu OP 😁

In Tiramisu Land
Oh I understand
The notion of a portion loses all proportion
In the creamy paradise of
Tiramisu Land

Why does it need replacing. She had half, he had half (give or take)

So why wouldnt he have it?

Unless they want another one of course but you make it sound like he took something that was 'hers'. She had her portions already. Why would he leave any?

I was very vague

That's your problem right there. Be specific with him - "have some but leave some for me." Or hide your tiramisu....

In our house it would go either:
A) 'There's some tiramisu if you'd like it.' 'Thanks- do you want any more or can I finish it?'
or
B)'There's some tiramisu if you'd like it. Don't finish it all though because I'd like a bit more.'

If it was lemon meringue pie, on the other hand, it would be:

'TOUCH MY LEMON MERINGUE PIE AND I'LL USE YOUR 'NADS FOR EARRINGS.' I'm VERY serious about LMP.

The constant harping on about it being "so rich" reminds me of that very funny Smack the Pony sketch where a group of women are absolutely wolfing down dessert whilst telling each other it is too rich 😂

You offered it to him, then got annoyed because he ate it ???
Did you tell him there were two portions left?
I would have been a bit annoyed if mu DH had eaten all of it but mainly with myself for not cutting him a piece and not leaving the whole lot.
I think you need to get past it

tbf it does say on the packaging eat within 2 days.

We need a Friends reprise:

"Joey doesn't share food" and "MY SANDWIICCHHHHH" (although uttering the phrase 'moist maker' should be a criminal offence).

You literally reminded him to eat it

If you want some left next time say 'pls leave me a.slice for tomorrow'

It seems to me you are both very similar. You don’t want to share. But your husband is honest about it while you put up a pantomime of being nice. Look
at yourself in the mirror. Admit who you really are , then eradicate any grey area by telling your husband; this is my dessert. I do not want to share it. Get your own.

You have my sympathy. I once put four Maltesers in a little bowl, ate one and told my partner, he could have two of the remaining three.

He ate all three! It was very hard to overlook this deliberate disregard for my happiness and wellbeing.

(To add context, earlier that year he had murdered my parents, of whom I was very fond. I'd only just come around to forgiving him for that, before the Malteser madness)

I ate a whole tray of it recently.......lol

I always tell my husband to “save me some” of my birthday cake! It’s irrational but I want the last piece! My husband works from home and he never buys/bakes sweet things but if I do he will eat them in one go and I’ll come home to no treat!

He has a problem with sweet things which is why he doesn’t bring them into the house. I find it really hard as I like to have biscuits or something around for when I feel like one but if I get them, they’re gone!

You've confused matters with your 10 cm estimate. That can't possibly be right surely? I could eat that in 2 bites. It makes you sound a bit looney tunes.

I can’t imagine damaging the precious environment by using ChatGbt for such mindless information, seriously. 😟
We’re all fucked with 1000’s of people asking for advice on stupid things everyday feeding AI.

I’ve just spotted a chocolate cake that DH baked with DC last night. There’s about 80% left. There’s potential for Bruce Bogtrotter style of revenge here…if I could stomach it. 😂

Can you say to him that you like to make things last and eat them over a few days, so could he please check with before finishing off any of the puddings or cakes that you’ve bought?

He obviously has a different idea of portion size to you but it seems like he wrong foots you a bit but usually not wanting any at all, and then eating what seems to you like a very big portion.

Seems like there’s a communication issue going on.

Its normal to take some when offered but I think its off to finish something somebody else bought for themselves

How many days were you looking to milk milk out the tiramisu omg

LTB

The Waitrose pistachio tiramisu is nicer btw

Take a fork to the middle of it. Think about he happy he was enjoying your dessert.

Take your share if it, just like he did?

if that’s 25% because DC have some as well, then that’s fine? That’s all he did, have his share?