To think DH should not have finished my dessert

[Mamma47448]

I bought a tiramisu from a supermarket yesterday. It was maybe 10 cm squared.

DH doesn’t usually buy desserts, he prefers to make them fresh. So I buy for myself and offer him some and sometimes he says yes. I think of them as mine though I’m usually happy to share. We don’t have a dessert every night.

I ate about 20% of it yesterday - it was delicious but it’s pretty rich and few spoonfuls are enough. I cut another 20% today after dinner for myself. I reminded DH we had tiramisu if he wanted some.

Baby was crying so I rushed through the tiramisu and went to settle them. I came back to find the rest of the tiramisu had gone! DH said I had eaten “half” (!) (Tbf he probably didn’t know I had some yesterday) so he had the other “half”. I’d been thinking I was going to save some for tomorrow. I’ve just looked at the box and it says it is 4 portions.

Is it fair to think of the desserts as mine? (DH is very generous with his baking but he’d definitely comment if I scoffed down most of his biscuits or whatever.)

Was it fair for DH to eat the rest of what I thought was my dessert?

Would it have been fair for me to have three portions (one yesterday, one today, one tomorrow) while DH has just one?

Semi-lighthearted. I’ll provide a bit more context later.

If there were two slices of cake left and DH ate both of them in one go while you were out of the room, would that be any more acceptable?

Oh. This is really odd and off. No wonder you were upset. That goes beyond ‘enjoying a cake’ and well into ‘greedy CF’ territory.

It was very selfish of him. If my DH said there was desert I could have or a meal or any type of food, I would check with him before devouring the lot. It doesn’t matter that you were vague, he should have waited for you to return before scoffing the lot. Greedy bastard. 😄

Oh, she knows all about it. 😆 We refer to it as 'Cakegate'. I was in a meeting and saw a text pop up with 'where the fuck is my cake?' Followed by about five more. That's when I was like good lawdy. We laugh about it now but she was absolutely fuming at the time.

This happened today though, right? So happily you can go buy another one tomorrow to continue eating the rest of the week!

And this time don’t offer him any when you don’t really mean it 🤣

Jesus you literally said he could have some. Then cause he didn’t have some at the time you said but a different you’ve thrown a wobble. It’s food, go and buy another and get over it.

If you ate the other 2 and you told him there was cake if he wants, yes acceptable :) because what i would understand is "i had my portion, you can have yours" whatever portion means. If you wanted to have some for tomorrow, you should have told him so.

You don't have a screenshot, do you? I'm in the mood for a good laugh 😂

Oh, well with the additional context I’d say that you need to stop encouraging and reminding him to eat things if you know there’s a chance that he’ll inconsiderately scoff the lot and leave you nothing.

Galaktoboureko is possibly the greatest cake of all time. It's like the final form evolution of an egg custard tart.

Scoff the lot? OP had a bit less than half is not really the lot is it

Never heard of it, off to google for research!

That’s fair enough.

Sadly not. It was in about 2014. But she actually has a part time cake making business now. It's doing pretty well. She makes stuff for quite a few of the coffee shops in the market town where we grew up. Also birthday/wedding cakes etc. Some of them are absolute works of art with fancy swirls and homemade truffles etc.

Just talk about this with him? And tell him
hes being greedy?

the thing is, you are giving mixed messages by telling him to help himself and repeatedly reminding him there’s tiramisu available… then being shocked when he does help himself. You should have been more direct eg tell him you are saving the tiramisu for work so he’s not to touch it or just not repeatedly mentioning it to him when you had an exact ratio in your head of what he’s allowed

now that is shitty behaviour!!

The tiramisu thing isn’t bad unless you had told him “save me a bit for tomorrow please”

He sounds like the type of person you have to be very explicit with? Why on earth didn’t he do anything for your birthday and then eat all your cake?!

I don’t plan to buy another one. It was a new thing in the shop, it’s just a novel treat. I don’t want it get in the habit of tiramisu every night. 🙈

this!!

Am also confused other than thinking the OP is trying not to call her husband a greedy pig 🤣

You are giving with one hand and taking away with the other.

Were there issues around food and sharing or punishment in your childhood?

Be more Marie Antoinette. Let him eat cake.

You had some and you offered.

FWIW I have eaten that size tiramisu in 2 goes.

I could easily eat half or more of that tiramisu and you did offer it to him so he wasn't unreasonable.

In future you need to be more explicit - "Dear DH, there's some tiramisu if you'd like some but please leave me a portion for tomorrow".

I might have been explicit if it was just one portion left. But it was quite a chunk of tiramisu! I feel
like 10 by 6cm is too much to eat in one go, it’s SO rich, it didn’t occur to me that he would eat it all. Same with the chocolate cake, I didn’t think to tell him not to eat half a cake.

We do love cakes but we don’t eat excessively big portions usually.

Ok I’ve measured it, it’s actually 12cm squared, 4cm deep. Does that make any difference? 😂

OP, you have issues around food or scarcity.
It is very easy to eat a lot of tiramisu.
Why make your loved one experience unexpected punishment after offered treats? It is just mean and cruel. Relax.
Is he very unfit? Are you? Any cause to worry?

10cm x 10cm is not large. It’s not even that many bites.

This is some bad BDSM. Treat your sub better and do not involve nonconsenting forum users. Does he even have a humiliation kink? This scene cannot be real.

Also I want tiramisu. Lots of it. Now.