To think DH should not have finished my dessert

[Mamma47448]

I bought a tiramisu from a supermarket yesterday. It was maybe 10 cm squared.

DH doesn’t usually buy desserts, he prefers to make them fresh. So I buy for myself and offer him some and sometimes he says yes. I think of them as mine though I’m usually happy to share. We don’t have a dessert every night.

I ate about 20% of it yesterday - it was delicious but it’s pretty rich and few spoonfuls are enough. I cut another 20% today after dinner for myself. I reminded DH we had tiramisu if he wanted some.

Baby was crying so I rushed through the tiramisu and went to settle them. I came back to find the rest of the tiramisu had gone! DH said I had eaten “half” (!) (Tbf he probably didn’t know I had some yesterday) so he had the other “half”. I’d been thinking I was going to save some for tomorrow. I’ve just looked at the box and it says it is 4 portions.

Is it fair to think of the desserts as mine? (DH is very generous with his baking but he’d definitely comment if I scoffed down most of his biscuits or whatever.)

Was it fair for DH to eat the rest of what I thought was my dessert?

Would it have been fair for me to have three portions (one yesterday, one today, one tomorrow) while DH has just one?

Semi-lighthearted. I’ll provide a bit more context later.

25% would have been plenty for you. Evidently not for him as he ate more than that...

We’ve been together for 15 years - I think by now I know what’s normal for him. 🙄

Obviously you know him better than me. But your story is about him eating twice as much tiramisu as you. You told another story on here about him eating half a cake. And a third comment about he will sometimes scoff the last bit of your dessert when you share it with DC. Apologies if that caused me to have the mistaken impression that sometimes he eats more cake than you...

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This thread has very much felt like a maths question!
percentages, fractions, weights, cubic measurements…

It's ok that it didn't occur to you, it's also ok that he thought he could eat it all, as you didn't explicitly say save me some, or don't eat all of it. Communicate with him, and seriously if this is all you have to worry about, you are fine

Yes I’m feeling about 90% “I overreacted” and 10% “he should have left me a bit”! I can also see when one posts on mumsnet and it doesn’t go your way, how easy it can be to entrench your position and give away your whole life story just to defend yourself. 😅

I feel outraged for you over pork pie gate!

'If a person didn't buy it, they shouldn't finish' it is a basic rule.

Similar sort of rule when it comes to starting something too - stay your hand. Don't open a new packet without checking the other one is finished and gone, and not lurking behind the milk or something.

Which is why I tend to write notes like Do not eat this DH . Nothing worse then going to the fridge to eat something you saved or put aside to find it has been scoffed by the human hoover in the house .

What the pp is trying to explain that even a normal Google search prioritises AI results first. You have to proactively click X to get away from the AI input.

But she told him it was there if he wanted it

Ridiculous isn’t it. Actually crazy how so many people use Chat GPT/grok whatever for everything like they can’t function without it

OP.. I've skimmed a bit but did you start a thread about buying a tall many layered expensive chocolate cake from a difficult to get to bakery, when you were pregnant and you put some away to savour another day and your DH scoffed the lot?

If so.. .Second offence... LTB

If this is just his first verbal warning... he will have to buy you another Tiramisu in reparation and keep his paws off it until invited, otherwise you will be forced to begin a disciplinary process.

Ha, that sounds so familiar, I was
questioning whether it was actually me! I probably saw the same thread and commented on it with my own fake story. 😂

This is why I buy puddings that only I like, and get everyone else their preferred pudding.

I think your messages were a bit mixed- given that you kept offering the tiramisu to him, it might have sounded like it needed using up.

When you saw the empty tray OP did you also stamp your feet. I'm sorry but I couldn't help it 😂

I’d have probably asked “did you eat two portions in one go?” But I wouldn’t begrudge him half a tiramisu. I’d have been annoyed about the birthday cake though.

4 portions??? Rubbish. Their portion sizes are tiny. I identify as a family of four quite easily with supermarket puddings!!!

but I would have been cross of someone had eaten my tiramisu. Why did you offer him any??! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Next time be explicit. The cake/dessert/goodiness in the fridge is mine that I'm taking to work for lunch tomorrow. DO NOT EAT IT.
Or considering his selfish greedy history with the cake - buy his absolute favourite. Eat most of it & leave a sad little teaspoonful for him to find. Let him feel the disappointment.

Had to buy a Tiramisu now.

Your own 'fake story'?

I think ir's a typo - should be cake story.

The cake is real.
Thanks to this thread I had a pistachio croissant and an almond croissant for dinner.

Omg yes, supposed to be cake story!

Good god you're Batshit crazy