To think DH should not have finished my dessert

[Mamma47448]

I bought a tiramisu from a supermarket yesterday. It was maybe 10 cm squared.

DH doesn’t usually buy desserts, he prefers to make them fresh. So I buy for myself and offer him some and sometimes he says yes. I think of them as mine though I’m usually happy to share. We don’t have a dessert every night.

I ate about 20% of it yesterday - it was delicious but it’s pretty rich and few spoonfuls are enough. I cut another 20% today after dinner for myself. I reminded DH we had tiramisu if he wanted some.

Baby was crying so I rushed through the tiramisu and went to settle them. I came back to find the rest of the tiramisu had gone! DH said I had eaten “half” (!) (Tbf he probably didn’t know I had some yesterday) so he had the other “half”. I’d been thinking I was going to save some for tomorrow. I’ve just looked at the box and it says it is 4 portions.

Is it fair to think of the desserts as mine? (DH is very generous with his baking but he’d definitely comment if I scoffed down most of his biscuits or whatever.)

Was it fair for DH to eat the rest of what I thought was my dessert?

Would it have been fair for me to have three portions (one yesterday, one today, one tomorrow) while DH has just one?

Semi-lighthearted. I’ll provide a bit more context later.

YANBU. I'd hate it if DP ate all of the leftover dessert that I bought for myself. I'm territorial with dessert, I guess.

I’m looking at the tray now and I think it’s pretty large. We’ve often ordered tiramisu after dinner out and it’s always with some regret because it’s too rich and too
much to finish after a meal.

On the one hand, I totally understand why your DH made that mistake. On the other hand...It was tiramisu.

LTB.

I would definitely consider that two portions. One portion at 12cm x 6cm is about what I’d expect to get served at a restaurant. Generous, but not in any way excessive. So I’m team DH - he thought you’d had your half and ate the other half.

I’m not worried about food issues. We both eat healthily and we enjoy cakes too.

So let him enjoy it?
It is really not a lot

You are starting to sound slightly unhinged now. I remember my gran going on for hours about some cream of something soup she’d ordered. “Oh, it was so rich”, “I don’t know how anyone could finish that”, “I feel so full from that rich soup”. After an afternoon of that I was ready to drown her in cream! A dessert made from sweet cake soaked in coffee syrup, cream, marscapone and chocolate is not exactly intended to be a light everyday pudding = just enjoy what you want to eat and let your DH do the same!

Me too. This is eating disorder territory OP.

Nobody who is well measures desserts that someone else has eaten.

He is hardly Henry VIII.

Just to be clear, I bought the tiramisu and he put it away for me so I knew he was aware of it. I only told him once today there was tiramisu if he wanted it.

Telling someone once is an invitation.
Telling them several times is nagging.
Unless you are from one of those No No No cultures where polite refusals have to be met with repeated invitations.

I’m only trying to describe what is normal for us. The 25% portion would have been plenty for either of us after dinner. It didn’t occur to me he would go for the full 50-60%.

Wow just buy more or stop offering it. As for me, just reading about these huge portion sizes is making me so full. 🙄

I feel strongly about letting people enjoy their tiramisu. And had better quit this thread. It is too sad.

I love tiramisu and could eat a whole one every night!😆

I don’t understand your post at all. I only told him once. Though funnily enough my family is from one of those cultures and I absolutely hate it. As a child my mother literally grabbed presents out of my hands and threw them back to the givers. I’ve gone completely the other way - first answer is the final answer. 😂

You reminded him you had tiramisu if he wanted some.

He wanted some and then you have a problem with it. He ate maybe a little over half.

You sent mixed messages. Communicate clearly. You're being unreasonable.

I think you are giving mixed messages too I'm afraid. Either don't mention the tiramisu or do but be specific- there's tiramisu but please dont eat it all as I'm planning to save some for my lunch. Separately, you need to tell him that you consider the desserts/cakes to be yours- he is welcome to have some but it would be polite to ask first. That way you are both on the same page and if he does eat something you didn't want him to you can take him to task.

Well I measured it not out of irritation for DH but for the people on the thread who think it’s a normal size. 😂

A portion is 5 x 5 cm so not quite as bad as that.

Or actually 6 x 6 cm and 4cm according to a later update.

You said, "Baby was crying so I rushed through the tiramisu and went to settle them".

Them? I thought it was just one baby, him or her.

Dh should have asked permission @Mamma47448

I usually say something like, ooh, there's still some tiramisu/wine/whatever left, do you want to split it? No confusion that way. Not that it's very often there's any tiramisu/wine/whatever left.

The swine ! You'll have to LTB
My husband ate the last Twirl, there were 5 in the packet and he had the spare one. 😕