AIBU to avoid a playdate because of the parent’s social media ?

[Jesstica]

not a political debate do you decide which kids hang out with yours based on their parents (if they are of a parents coming along age?)

Hey. I'm from a 2 mum family and debating if I should still go on a play date thing. Long story short a local political group (naming no names!) has recently posted some dodgy stuff about same sex parents, box ticking and that they shouldn't be allowed to adopt which has meant that people in the comments are chipping in some bold stuff. One of the people liking/adding some posts, is someone who we are due to meet up with next week whos kid goes to nursery with ours. We dont know her well, I'd presume she knows our family set up but I don't know because this is the first non nursery meet up.

DW wants to be mysteriously busy, because she doesnt want any awkwardness if she hasn't realised, or for those views to get through to our kid if it becomes a longer friendship. Our kids can hang out at nursery etc, just not on parent play dates outside of it until perhaps when they are old enough that hanging out with the kid doesn't mean also hanging out with the parents.

I dont want to interfere with the friendship but am not thrilled at awkward parent chat while they play. None of this is either of our kids fault so I'm tempted to go along but then don't know what I'd do if she wants to schedule more

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This is a lot more than not being politically correct, it’s hate and bigotry. Not being PC is using outdated language to describe a minority or stereotyping someone.

I’d rather “stunt” my child’s social life than have them go to the home of someone who actively opposes their family. I’m sure they’d thank me for it later. This isn’t even an issue anyway, the kid is 3 years old

That's the point though. You just assumed i was in the wrong

Throughout this while telling me to be open minded, you've spent the whole time jumping on other people

You assumed I had been using slurs, and calling people homophobic (i hadn't), you assumed i was over reacting. You assumed that I didnt have "enough evidence" without presumably reading what I said or asking what the posts were if you weren't sure. You've decided that it can't be real and sent me a passive agressive thing about misinterpreted bias to try and invalidate what is happening.

I said i had seen some quite shocking posts, without asking what they were you decided that I couldn't have.

You decided without seeing the posts, knowing either of us that she was definitely just talking about gay men, that it was definitely reasonable and I must be overreacting. Its the definition of stereotyping me and my intent.

Similar to other people that have come in saying that I had called them hateful (when I didnt) or just randomly pronounced that they don't support me being able to parent when it's not what the question was.

Its all strawman arguments that you decided because you decided what the argument was rather than what it is.

As someone who has a rainbow family, quite frankly my tolerance bar for this kind of homophobia is now so low it’s practically underground!
OP you owe these - very likely homophobes - people zero amount do your time. At worst they’re homophobic, at best a bit dim, so I would bother with them at all.

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They might try to turn your kids straight.

I’m not sure how to back away from this thread without the notifications constantly hitting my inbox. Everytime you quote me I get an email encouraging me to reply. Then when I reply you report my post 🙈. Can’t win for losing. I will be delighted to hide the thread, you just have to stop quoting me.

You must have said something pretty awful to have a complaint lead to the whole post being removed. Going on the evidence presented, I'm going to assume it was something homophobic, yes?

You’ve quoted me again!

Plus there’s literally no hide option. I thought it used to be the three dots at the top. Hide is no longer there weirdly.

It's here.

Whoops!

Sorry about that.

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How?
I still haven’t found out how to hide a thread. It used to be easy.

It’s fine 😛

It still is.

I think I’ve found it. On the desktop it’s an arrow with a drop down menu. I’m going to try it now ….

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