AIBU to feel hurt our friendship group went away without us?

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Aibu to be hurt that the rest of our friendship group have gone away for 2 nights?

so friendship group of 3 couples, always all been there for each other, always invited all couples whenever we have arranged anything even if it wasn’t their cup of tea.

today we’ve been inundated by pictures from 2 of the couples who have gone away for an (expensive) city break to somewhere we love doing stuff that we love. Aibu to feel hurt that we were never asked? I’m genuinely shocked by this.. no issues with friendship at all but this has been planned for some time and no one told us..

just feel hurt that no one asked if we would like to come? a just a week ago they cancelled on us after having something booked for a number of months they all pulled out with various excuses.. seen them since with no issues so we’re a bit perplexed!

thanks all- just wondering if I’m being unreasonable to feel hurt or not?

sounds like they don't want to be a group any more

Yeah- many many times

I’d be open as in; yes we’re are off the Nice with Bert and Rita, we should go somewhere.

It’s nice to see friends on a more individual basis as well as a group.

Perhaps they want to mix things up. Who knows, but having other friends is also worthwhile.

I think you need to know why you weren’t invited. They must have known you would have been hurt.
OP most people are shitty - maybe they are showing their true colours now

Oh ok, many many times puts a bit of a different slant on things.

Yeah I would find this rude. Has there been any other occasions you know of where it has just been the other two couples, or have you done something before with just one couple?

Very nasty reply to your legitimate question.
Not the response of friends.
Very hurtful.
I'm so sorry.

You said they went somewhere you love, is it a place where you've been before and they haven't? Maybe they just assumed you wouldn't be interested in going again. They're still rude though!

What a bunch of tossers.

I don’t think so- we’ve seen them all since so not sure

Not that I know of- we usually do everything as 3 couples in all honesty

Just ask them, damage is done anyway

I’m so sorry. I think they are all no longer not your friends. They have cancelled on plans and now all 4 gone on holiday without you. Their response was also nasty.

Have you noticed anything changing before the cancellation?

This makes it very strange, and strange they didn't say.

And to rub their friends' face in it by posting pictures on social media?

If you think a message like this doesn't make it 100% obvious that you're annoyed I have large doubts about your judgement!

Separately, sorry OP this is a bit crap for you. I wouldn't end the friendship over it but I'd have an eye out for whether things have changed.

This is basically a group of 3 though - it's perfectly ok for 2 people (or couples as it is in this case) to do things together without the 3rd. Do you never do anything with just you and one other couple?

Weirdest bit is they sent you the photos!

Unfortunately specifically shared with us, I honestly think they don’t think they have done anything wrong that’s why I’m so perplexed by it all

Yeah this is what I’m currently thinking- thank you

Honestly absolutely nothing and we’ve seen them for dinner since and there were no issues at all, im just perplexed!

It’s not really a “friendship group” as such, just three couples who are friends. If two of those couples wanted to do something together that’s not unreasonable. The secrecy is a bit odd though and makes me think there’s something you’re not being told.

Gosh. That's quite shocking. And they were so blasè when you asked them. I'm afraid to say that I might well consider pulling back from the friendship group

As you usually do things as 3 couples not 2, and they told you they organised it just for them, I would ask them why you and your DH were not invited.

I would be very hurt in your position.

There's something. They haven't told you what it is and they might never tell you, but there's something.