AIBU to feel hurt our friendship group went away without us?

[starships]

Aibu to be hurt that the rest of our friendship group have gone away for 2 nights?

so friendship group of 3 couples, always all been there for each other, always invited all couples whenever we have arranged anything even if it wasn’t their cup of tea.

today we’ve been inundated by pictures from 2 of the couples who have gone away for an (expensive) city break to somewhere we love doing stuff that we love. Aibu to feel hurt that we were never asked? I’m genuinely shocked by this.. no issues with friendship at all but this has been planned for some time and no one told us..

just feel hurt that no one asked if we would like to come? a just a week ago they cancelled on us after having something booked for a number of months they all pulled out with various excuses.. seen them since with no issues so we’re a bit perplexed!

thanks all- just wondering if I’m being unreasonable to feel hurt or not?

Great post @MaggiesShadow
I’d be very hurt too @starships

I be hurt too. Group dynamics can be weird. Op if Im hurt I match their energy. Its not nice though.

I am someone who places a lot of importance on friendships (usually more than others) so I can be hurt easily by actions like this. I totally understand your feelings and I would feel hurt too, not by the trip it self per se, but the secrecy surrounding it. All a bit suss.

I think I would just pull back a bit, let the dust settle and see if carrying on with the friendships was something I could do without that weight of suspicion or hurt getting in the way. If I couldn't then I would know I needed to move on. I certainly wouldn't give them the satisfaction of knowing how hurt I was unless pressed specifically about it.

I would also organise a trip somewhere that I know they would love to go or to do, like a festival or something similar, go only with DH and post photos. Show them that you are good on your own and you don't need them to have fun in your life. It is sort of game playing but I think it is something that you might do regardless of the current situation so not overtly game-playing. For me I'd do it just to give myself a feeling of independence from the group and the strength to move on from it.