Long distance relationship with a Tunisian man?

[JustCoralGoose]

In a nutshell I have been speaking to someone online from Tunisia for 4 years as great friends and recently he told me he wants to be with me and now he’s speaking about meeting me but he can’t stay for long on a holiday or visitor visa and because of his religious background he wants to marry me right away! If it weren’t for those things I wouldn’t.

Now for the longer version
I have asked him why he didn’t find a girlfriend where he lives and he did say he has dated quite a few women and I remember him mentioning he never met anyone that he really likes but he loves everything about me and my personality.
He is about the same age as me (20’s)
He doesn’t have a job but is supported by his father whilst he is studying and he hopes to get a job to do with something on the computer like coding and development although I don’t understand about things like that. I have seen some of his work and it’s too complicated for me to understand .
I’m in the middle of starting a business and have a lot going on in my life and to be honest this new relationship is taking a lot of my head space.
I’m aware there are cultural differences but I’m lying here thinking I would be off my head to marry someone I’ve only met in person once and we don’t know what it’s like to live with each other - I also don’t know if he understands the legal implications and that it would financially tie us together.
I can’t even say it is so he can obtain permission to come to this country as both him and his family want me to move to Tunisia - another conversation in itself as what about healthcare, I have a life here, and what about all my stuff like furniture because I would probably have to sell it all before I could leave.
If I (hypothetically) did my intention would be to start a business over there but I am aware that I would rely on him financially at first which I don’t want to do unless I had savings to live on.
I know nothing about the country and have never gone but from what I’ve seen it honestly doesn’t look like the kind of place I would want to live.
I have also only recently just head about the Tunisian love rat thing.
We have spoken over video call a lot and he is honestly so nice and such a kind man.
But I have not told anyone in person about the ‘relationship’ yet because I’m half worried they’ll think I need to go to a mental facility.
He has introduced me to his family over video call and they are aware he is in a ‘relationship’ with me and he can translate the languages - they speak some English but he’s hoping to teach us how to speak to each other.

Run run run OP! My dad married a woman from a different African country. She and all her friends and female family members were on the lookout for old European men to marry. She persisted for 5 years before my dad agreed to marry her. As soon as this happened she arrived in England with her 2 sons by other men (this had not been part of the plan!) who she then left with my dad while she moved in with another man and had 2 babies with him. Eventually she moved back in with my dad while he was dying. He was embarrassed and slightly afraid to talk about it. Some fishy business happened with his will, and she ended up with the majority of his money and family business, which he’d never intended to happen (plenty of evidence of this) and moved back to her home country where a quick look on the internet in the right place suggests she running a beauty bar and massage parlour for men, hoping to catch herself another silly foreigner while she is still young enough.

@JustCoralGoose watch a few episodes of 90 day fiancée and you’ll see what he’s liking you up for - a visa and funds!

Run. Run fast. Never talk to him again!!!

I’m not going to lay into you and question your intelligence as others will, but you KNOW this isn’t right. Stop trying to convince yourself differently and trust your instincts (and all of the posters on here). You’re sensing something is off, trust yourself. You don’t want to be one of those women that gets scammed. Scammers get away with it because the women who get scammed are usually too embarrassed to admit how foolish they’ve been. The women who do talk about the experience are met with the “how could she be so naive?” attitude and are victim blamed. Don’t be either of those people.
Stay safe and trust your instincts.

Absolutely this. OP, you need to run a mile!

Is this a joke? It's not April's Fool Day yet.

This has to be a joke, right? In his defence he isn’t even trying to pretend he’s a decent prospect.

If this is real, you need some common sense and quickly!

No
No
Noo
Noooo
Noooooooo
NOPE!!

No. Walk away

Why haven't you been out to Tunisia to visit him more than once in 4 years? You say you have "a lot going on" in your life - have you got family, kids, do you work?

And they say romance is dead. "Tell us about your husband - how did you two meet? What was it that made you fall in love with him? How did you know that leaving your entire life in the UK behind to move to a different country, with a culture you knew almost nothing about and a language you don't speak, for a man you barely knew, was the right thing?"

in fact, I was not even looking for a relationship in the first place, but since we’ve been speaking for four years and he did ask me, I thought why not.

Don't you think you should have a reason to marry him, rather than a reason not to?

p.s. everyone has given you lots of those.

Start practising your sad face for 'Take a Break' now...

Run! This guy is out for what he can get (and he probably doesn’t want you)! 🚩 🚩 🚩

dont even go there. Literally and figuratively.

No he doesn’t want to be with you, he just wants a visa and then a UK passport and sees you as an easy route.

A) This is NOT a relationship, and
B) This sums it up -
But I have not told anyone in person about the ‘relationship’ yet because I’m half worried they’ll think I need to go to a mental facility

This!

Do Not Marry him
hes after a visa, passport and your money
not necessarily in that order

Is his name Monsieff, OP? My lovely late MIL regularly holidayed in Tunisia and had a young Tunisian who was ‘head over heels’ for her. Introduced her to his family and spent lots of time with his friends. Thankfully, she treated it as a bit of fun rather than taking him seriously…

it is a well known con.

How can anyone be this gullible?

So you are probably an intelligent and caring person who is also a little lonely

@MNHQdo you have any standard advice or people to contact for this kind of scam ?

Surely no one is this naive?
The whole story is basically red flag central 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

ETA: I also don’t know if he understands the legal implications and that it would financially tie us together.

Willing to bet money he does, in fact, understand the legal implications very, very well 🙄

I don't believe this is real but in the unlikely event that it is - run for the hills OP! It's a scam.