What's your 'type'?

[mumofoneAloneandwell]

Mine is

Tall
Blue eyes
Thin but strong
Plays an instrument
Bit depressed

Omg 🫠

Tall
Blue eyes
Fair hair
Not hairy
Speaks well
Has good manners
Doesn't swear much
Drives considerately
Makes me laugh

Physical, don’t really have one except I prefer a lean hard body to bulging muscles. No hair or eye colour preference, it’s how they work together that is attractive.

But must be kind, empathetic, have sense of humour, intellectually curious. And like dogs.

Ha- we share taste I see. My dh is not tall but got the rest. Must say my list has changed since I met him in my early twenties (now 46). Right now it would be:

• kind with similar values

-not skinny not obese, rather a little overweight than underweight

• intellectually curious
• leave me to myself most of the time (hello perimenopause)

Tall, nerdy, funny, dark hair (fine, Louis Theroux...)

The daughter of the farrier knew what she was on about😂

Someone who is loving, fun, practical, can and does cook, good with dealing with spiders, patient, good with kids and someone that puts up with me!
Luckily for dh he ticks almost all the boxes (he’s not great with dealing spiders mostly because he’s got slow reflexes so I tend to have to sort out emergencies myself rather than risk him buffooning about)

Men, unfortunately

Hozier!

None of the people who I have ended up in LTRs with have exactly fit my physical or personality checklists so I don’t know how much validity is there in listing my “type”: its honoured more in the breach than in the observance.

I prefer to list my dealbreakers:

People who can’t read a room socially and bang on inappropriately about themselves
Hyper macho types and anyone who thinks they need to “wear the trousers” in the relationship
Antivaxxers and conspiracy theorists
Blokes with strong opinions about what women should look like or how they should conduct themselves in public
Heavy drinkers
Men who are overly fastidious about hygiene. Sorry but I find it a real turnoff
Far right or far left views

"Seems to be into me".

I'm a bloke, we can't generally afford to be picky!

bit depressed? Girl time to grow up

Thick brown wavy hair
Job that involves a uniform
Taller than me
Nice hands
Does everything I say with only a moderate amount of complaining

I have two types, physically.

One is quite short, slim, dark hair, energetic. The other is light brown hair and bear-like build - tall, broad shouldered and chested.

But personality really does matter most to me. I like highly intelligent, slightly quirky men who are very gentle and kind with a dry sense of humour.

Does everything I say with only a moderate amount of complaining

And here we all were blathering on about eyes and height. How did we forget that?!

Bear-like. You've nailed the description. Wot she said⬆

Not fat, not lean: bear-like!

Yup we can share one if you like @Tonissister 😂

(Though actually now I think of it I've got one - whom you can't share ...)

Move to Ireland, it’s full of your type.

5'6 to 5'8 (I don't like being towered over)
Skinny
Ginger hair
Brown eyes
Funny
Artistic but not self conscious about it
Wears a suit

I actually know a few of these but as I'm old enough to be their granny it is largely irrelevant.

Physically I’m not bothered as long as they are at least a couple of inches taller than me (I’m 5ft5) and fairly muscular as it’s unattractive when men don’t do regular exercise! They also need to take care of themselves with good hygiene and grooming.

I don’t have a preference for a certain race, skin, hair or eye colour as all can be attractive, but good teeth are a must!

Personality wise warm, kind and interested in the world around them and smart with a good work ethic as being able to provide financially is attractive let’s be honest and this doesn’t mean rich it means being reliable!
Oh and no smokers or big drinkers.

Sort of Robin Williams crossed with Hammer from Gladiators

Just occurred to me that for me to fancy someone outside of my type (rugged, beardy) they would have to be exceptionally good looking (Henry Cavill, David Gandy…), but I have a lower bar for men who meet my favoured look and can find them very hot even if they are not generally considered conventionally attractive (Matt Berry). And to be clear, I would take Matt Berry over Henry Cavill or David Gandy 😁.

Physically, tall, dark and handsome. My husband and I joke how he doesn't fit the bill - 5' 8 and light brown hair 🤣 Good looking to me but not in a conventional way - there's more to it than looks!

At least 6' 2"
Broad-shouldered but lightly/athletically built
Fine bone structure, lovely shaped lips
Preferably blond/dirty blond hair
Soft husky voice
Sardonic, dry humour
Beautiful fine-boned hands

It's Paul Bettany
Loved him since A Knight's Tale in 2000.

DISCLAIMER my DP of many years is NOTHING like this.

Tall & broad with big shoulders, rugby player type
Blue eyes
Nice voice and accent
Funny
Clever

My DH has the funny and clever bit, but isn't particularly tall and he's a skinny cyclist. He's put up with me for the best part of 40 years at this stage, so he'll do.

Tall
Good at DIY
Loves food and can cook
Skilled manual worker
Calm
Not sexist as sexism is a complete turn off