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AIBU? Awkward Noisy next door neighbours

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GooseChased · 09/02/2026 12:24

Bit of an awkward situation. I’m looking to know what would others do in this situation?

My son came to me last week to tell me that he thinks the neighbours ‘are doing sex together’ (he’s 11 and still innocent about these things). His room wall would be next to their bedroom as we’re in a semi-detached. I’ve known my neighbour for a few years and I think she’s got a new boyfriend (hence the noise lol). I felt we were close enough so I had a bit of an awkward chat to her. I didn’t say anything outrageous, just that my son mentioned hearing noises and we joked a bit and she apologised and said they’ll be quieter. But since then it’s been happening again and again and I have heard too. They’re an older couple so no kids of their own that’s why I assume they aren’t too worried about noise. I’m not the most confident person when it comes to addressing situations but it’s not something my son should be hearing every night. What’s my best approach? She’s always been nice to me, but never proper friends. And In the past she has had beef with her other neighbour that I didn’t get involved in

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Imanautumn · 09/02/2026 12:26

Get sound proofing for your son’s walls, there’s nothing else you can do. It’s their house and you can’t control how much they… enjoy themselves….

Cookingupmyfirstbornson · 09/02/2026 12:29

Rearrange the bedrooms?

Awkwardisfunny · 31/08/2026 11:05

This is weird. You're trying to stop your neighbour from having sex? In her own home? She can make as much noise as she likes. Either swap rooms or stop being weird - nothing wrong with sex or kids learning about it (in a healthy, appropriate way). We are just animals after all. But if it bothers you that much that he hears someone making noises (?) then swap rooms or ask the local council / builders / local MP to build houses with proper soundproofing and to retro-fit noise insulation. That's the actual issue, not your neighbour enjoying a healthy sex life.

Maybe she is bothered by your kid making noises while watching TV or playing with toys. How would you feel if she asked you to keep him silent while having fun. If it were 24/7, that would be different.

Btw your son likely has no clue what the noises are about, he will just be commenting that he can hear something because he didn't before.

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