Who is in the wrong here?

[Mumof2soon2be3]

i am just over 36 weeks pregnant and have 2 older children (not with my
current partner) and my partner has 2 younger children.
on Saturday my partner worked and then went to the pub without telling me and didn’t answer his calls or messages for 4 hours (he has a history of this) then when he finally
did answer he was shouting at me for being mad. He came home got a shower and went back out returning home at 2.30 Sunday morning. During this time I started with really bad back pains and Sunday morning had a show.
Sunday we were meant to have his kids and he said he was going to pick them up but did not he ended up going out again, and did not return home and again didn’t answer calls or messages and turned his phone off.
come Monday morning I got a message saying sorry for the upset. During his time of being awol I had sent him lots of messages venting my anger and basically saying it’s not acceptable etc.
i spoke to him at 9am yesterday and he said he would call be back and didn’t all day and only asked to come home at 7ish. Come 10.30 he still isn’t back so I ask whats
going on? I’d already said we need a talk about our future on Tuesday and he understood.
he then says he hasn’t read any of my messages so will do so now at 10.45pm, he turns nasty on me for asking when he is coming home because I hadn’t slept for 2 nights and wanted to go to sleep.
anyway this turns into a massive argument and him saying it’s over and he can’t believe the things I’ve said.
I have put up with the disappearing acts for 2 years but told him before Christmas it stops or he leaves because he isn’t letting my
baby down.
also we only got back together in October after an incident caused by his drinking in early September. This caused a lot of upset and friends or family didn’t want me to take him back because of how he behaves in general not just the incident.
he always manages to try manipulate the situation and blame me and justify is awful behaviour.
anyway he has soon slipped back to his old self. Advice please?

Wow, another depressing thread about a desperate woman putting her “love” for a useless man over the welfare of her kids.

Feckless and pathetic attitudes from the adults here.

I think you're trying to deflect with your comment about everyone having the perfect life. Some of us are speaking from experience. I certainly am, both with growing up with an abusive father and a mother incapable of protecting me from him, and also marrying/having a child with a man who turned out to be at best feckless and ultimately abusive himself, who I booted out when my DD was very young. So I know the consequences of having a child with an awful man, I know how hard it is as a single parent - but I also know how much better my (and DD's) life immediately was when he was gone.

So, when I told DD to choose wisely who you have a child with - I was giving her the benefit of my experience, not preaching from some ivory tower.

None of us know your history, the reason why you are continuing to accommodate this cretin of a man, but you are the master of your own destiny here (and that of your child's) - get some therapy to understand your low self esteem and need to have a man in your life regardless of how awful he treats you and get the hell out of there.