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AIBU?

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To refuse to keep the peace anymore?

90 replies

MarriedWithCauldron · 20/01/2026 12:40

I’ve been a member of our local WI on and off for years now. I know I’m not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s fine - I’m not going to kowtow to people. A few years back they voted me out, although I refuse to believe this was a genuine vote; there was definitely something going on behind the scenes.

Anyway, last year I got voted back in. Some people weren’t happy, but one of the older members who had been instrumental in getting me out was, frankly, starting to lose the plot, so a lot of others felt my uncompromising personality was what was needed to take things forward. One of my first tasks on rejoining was to try to get control of the kitty from another member, who I’ll call Dotty. Dotty is convinced it’s up to her to decide what happens to the kitty, but disagree - I’m in a far better position to control it.

Anyway, last week was the flower arranging contest. My arrangement was clearly the best by miles, but Nora, the head judge, is one of the people who has a problem with me, so refused to give me first prize. I was fuming. I deserved that prize and no one else! I decided there and then I didn’t owe any of them any favours and was just going to do what I thought best from now on.

The situation with Dotty and the kitty is getting silly now and people are just refusing to listen to reason. I’ve said I want her out and will do what I have to to make sure it happens. Quite a few of the others are huffing and puffing and saying I’m just causing arguments, but frankly I don’t care anymore. I’m done playing peacemaker.

What I can’t believe is the nerve of Nora and her neighbour, Freda, who have messaged me saying I need to stop this and to make sure we don’t all fall out. After what Nora did to me over the flower arranging prize! I messaged back saying “Since you decided not to give me the prize, even though I REALLY deserved it, I don’t feel like I have to worry about keeping the peace anymore.” I know it will cause ructions, but who cares? I’m right and they’re wrong!

AIBU?

OP posts:
PandoraSocks · 20/01/2026 13:47

ThatCyanCat · 20/01/2026 13:32

Yes, I'd probably read this novel. You need to make the protagonist somehow likeable if you want her to win; some sort of redemptive arc but staying no nonsense and efficient. Maybe she can have a heartbreaking secret or maybe the whole joke is that she hasn't. Workshop it and see how it goes. You need to keep the tone nice and light.

Making the protagonist likeable is going to very very hard work in this case. Although the 🍊 does have a strong fanbase.

Vaguelyclassical · 20/01/2026 13:48

ByTwinklyFish · 20/01/2026 12:43

Is your name Donald?

This has to be a Trump parody, right?

PandoraSocks · 20/01/2026 13:50

Nanny0gg · 20/01/2026 13:42

Except it isn't.

I'm sure there's a better one out there

You write it then!

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 20/01/2026 14:44

YABU for poor creative writing skills

Netcurtainnelly · 20/01/2026 15:17

ToKittyornottoKitty · 20/01/2026 12:41

There is no way this is real

AI thread.

mucky123 · 20/01/2026 15:30

Trump

LadyHexham · 20/01/2026 15:39

Are you Donald Trump?

MarriedWithCauldron · 20/01/2026 15:51

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 20/01/2026 14:44

YABU for poor creative writing skills

Let’s see yours then!

OP posts:
MarriedWithCauldron · 20/01/2026 15:51

Netcurtainnelly · 20/01/2026 15:17

AI thread.

Nope!

OP posts:
itsgettingweird · 20/01/2026 16:02

Just read this to DS (21)

Got to the end of the 2nd paragraph and he said “is this basically Donald Trump in a story” 🤣

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 20/01/2026 18:49

YABU.

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 20/01/2026 19:04

tryingtobesogood · 20/01/2026 12:42

Is this the opening to a midsommer murder episode? Will Dotty be found dead in the vicarage clutching the kitty, flowers artfully arranged around her?

😂

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 20/01/2026 19:08

lifeturnsonadime · 20/01/2026 13:47

Op maybe you could make a beef wellington with some of those special mushrooms in it?

Then hold a dinner party to apologise for making a fuss.

That'll show 'em. You'll have control of the kitty in no time.

Thanks op, very clever 👌

RudolphTheReindeer · 20/01/2026 19:11

It took me a while 😂

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 20/01/2026 19:34

I think you'd be totally justified invading a country or three if you want to

Theonebutnotonly · 20/01/2026 19:37

Was this a homework exercise for your creative writing class?

user1471453601 · 20/01/2026 19:39

MarriedWithCauldron · 20/01/2026 12:40

I’ve been a member of our local WI on and off for years now. I know I’m not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s fine - I’m not going to kowtow to people. A few years back they voted me out, although I refuse to believe this was a genuine vote; there was definitely something going on behind the scenes.

Anyway, last year I got voted back in. Some people weren’t happy, but one of the older members who had been instrumental in getting me out was, frankly, starting to lose the plot, so a lot of others felt my uncompromising personality was what was needed to take things forward. One of my first tasks on rejoining was to try to get control of the kitty from another member, who I’ll call Dotty. Dotty is convinced it’s up to her to decide what happens to the kitty, but disagree - I’m in a far better position to control it.

Anyway, last week was the flower arranging contest. My arrangement was clearly the best by miles, but Nora, the head judge, is one of the people who has a problem with me, so refused to give me first prize. I was fuming. I deserved that prize and no one else! I decided there and then I didn’t owe any of them any favours and was just going to do what I thought best from now on.

The situation with Dotty and the kitty is getting silly now and people are just refusing to listen to reason. I’ve said I want her out and will do what I have to to make sure it happens. Quite a few of the others are huffing and puffing and saying I’m just causing arguments, but frankly I don’t care anymore. I’m done playing peacemaker.

What I can’t believe is the nerve of Nora and her neighbour, Freda, who have messaged me saying I need to stop this and to make sure we don’t all fall out. After what Nora did to me over the flower arranging prize! I messaged back saying “Since you decided not to give me the prize, even though I REALLY deserved it, I don’t feel like I have to worry about keeping the peace anymore.” I know it will cause ructions, but who cares? I’m right and they’re wrong!

AIBU?

Are you The Donald and using the flower arrangements instead of the Nobel Peace prize, and the money as greenland?

If so, poor attempt.

GanninHyem · 20/01/2026 19:43

MarriedWithCauldron · 20/01/2026 15:51

Nope!

Yeah, even AI could come up with something better than whatever this is tbh.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 20/01/2026 19:46

Can I just at that this is the kind of drama that Aibu was made for!

starryeyess · 20/01/2026 19:47

You should run for Prime minister OP. You're clearly not a reasonable or rational person but who worries about that in this day and age? Just be sure to tell everyone how great you are (very loudly) and you'll have won half the country round already.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 20/01/2026 19:48
Awkward Episode 2 GIF by The Office

Oh wow, I thought it was real drama 😂😂🙈🙈🙈🙈

as you were

Bonkers1966 · 20/01/2026 19:52

Very good. First prize 🏆 for creative writing. Made me chuckle.

wordledrivingmemad · 20/01/2026 19:56

Alright Donald! 😂😂😂😂

Silvers11 · 20/01/2026 20:02

Wonderful @MarriedWithCauldron 😂

LongDarkTeatime · 20/01/2026 20:07

Fifi here … and you didn’t even bother to mention the special prize I made for you to celebrate your little sausages!! After all the effort I went to and you just want the other prizes 😭 I even promised to hold my next party at your place 😭