I keep reading here about strict rules making sneaky kids and DD1 has being saying the same.
HOWEVER. The first we knew she was drinking (15.5yrs, she's no coming up to 16) involved an ambulance to hospital (friends were being over the top but she needed a large amount of stitches). Two months later I'm screeching over to the nearest big city (25 min journey) at 9pm to collect her and her mates who are totally out of it (drunk, I think only drink and vaping) and wandering the streets. Both vomit copiously.
Since then I have let her go to NYE at a friends where the mum got them pizza and let them have some booze (this was good, I have offered to repeat, apparently it was lame), go out in the day and then tried once into night. We had to argue to get the train we wanted her to get home. She had been drinking but wasn't drunk but was cross we had made her leave (they were hanging around on street corners).
She goes to school in the city and her friends that live there seem to have unlimited freedom and access to vapes and drinks. Some others nearer us seem to have unlimited freedom and cash to come and go as they please.
Am I being very strict to say no vaping, no drinking on the street, we need to have clear plan for train back that needs to be stuck to? She says we are draconian and that means that she can't do anything with her friends as that is what they do.
BU - yes too strict
NBU - no, the rules are reasonable