To ask if this is controlling?

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Riding in a relatives car, I'm mostly on the back seat. He has the child lock on the window and very rarely allows me to wind the window im closest to down even on a nice day. He doesn't like the wind apparently. His wife does not think this is controlling but thinks it's hilarious when I ask and he refuses.

The air con doesn’t help you? You have to have open windows in a car?

Or alternatively, OP can put up and shut up for what must only be few minutes' ride.

Rolling down the back windows makes a really awful noise if you're driving. I don't let the kids do it it drives me insane.

Why should she, if they are getting a free holiday? They might change their tune if OP starts being unavaliable next time they want to stay.

Does the car not have aircon? If it does, then obviously you shouldn't have the window open and the aircon on at the same time. Is that his issue?

Because she's getting a free ride. She might change her tune if they start making her walk next time they all go out.

It doesn't count as a 'free ride' if the only reason they are able to stay there is because OP is putting them up. Do you really not see how that changes the situation? I would agree with you under other circumstances, but I think it is really rude to treat your host in that way.

all my windows are closed - the noise, the wind flapping my hair in to my face… the aircon is enough. Everything is bloody controlling these days 🙄🙄