Boyfriend in the wrong? Or did I overreact?

[Rachhj]

BF and I met his friend and someone he has been seeing for a couple of months last night at our local for drinks.

This was the first time we’ve met her, lovely girl and we got along well.

When she went to the loo, my BF turned to his friend and said something (not exact quote) like ‘I bet you can’t wait to get stuck into that later’ and they both laughed.

I told him afterwards I thought that was not a pleasant way to speak about her and he said that we were in a pub, had a couple of drinks and that’s just how blokes talk to each other, and he meant no disrespect.

AIBU to have found this unkind?

The thread is not about women. It’s about OP’s boyfriend.

Yes! There is always one.🙄

Not that it makes it any better, but he said the ‘that’ was her bottom.

Consider the fact that he waited for her to leave before he said that, but was happy to say it in front of you.

Makes you wonder how much more vile he is when you leave the room, eh?

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Jesus H Christ that made it worse.

I imagine men say stuff like that to each other loads, in varying ways, but to say it in front of you is disrespectful and nasty.

He was disrespectful to her and you OP. He didn't give a toss that you were there.

So start a thread about your group dinner then.

FFS me-railing at a stratospheric level.

OP your BF is an arsehole. If you accept this, you accept that. And I guarantee he won’t be a kind and respectful man to you.

your reply made me laugh 😂

Poor OP, with a guy that thinks this explanation would make it better!

Eeeeuuww
What did the friend say to that comment?
What does your BF say about you to his friend in front of his girlfriend ?

Is this the first time that your BF has shown this side of his personality?

How long have you been dating your BF @Rachhj ?

Next!

And up your low self esteem too.

No point, just that it is a people issue. I find it just as distasteful, but it isn't a male / female thing. Just some people talk this way, and some don't.

True. And he is a nob for saying it.

I have heard many, many men talk like that (I work with men and a lot are like this). I certainly would not be in a relationship with any of them! However, most are smart enough to not actually say it in front of their wife/GF so, not only is he a misogynistic tool, he’s also a bit thick? Into the bin he goes.

Yes i am one of them.

Utter degradation. @Rachhj, you are diminishing yourself by going with such a revolting misogynistic pig. He has zero respect for the dignity of women, and that includes you. He will certainly be speaking of you in the same vulgar way.

Want better for yourself.

That’s nice.

Maybe lots of men talk like this. Or maybe he is very rare in doing so. Maybe lots of women do or don't. Makes no odds whatsoever - the point is you know HE talks like this and thinks like this and sees nothing up with it, and HE is the person you are dating.

Yuk OP you must have got the ick big time. What an utter cretin.

Id have repeated it in front of the new gf so she knew why I was leaving the group... lovely to meet you but didnt realise my bf was a misogynist ass,

Bet you cant wait to get stuck into THAT....

Not only is he ogling another woman in front of you, so he has zero respect for you or her but he views her as an object. Get rid.

No, it makes it much worse. Your boyfriend is a disgusting sexist pig.

Im human off course i look at men with my friends, and yep id have some of that.
I wouldnt say it in ear shot of that person.

Why would you want to even be in the same room as a man who talks about women like that? Let alone call him your bf?
You know now how he will be discussing you, and your sex life, with his friends behind your back.

You realise he has no respect for you don't you?