To wonder what I’m doing wrong socially?

[Puddleofmud17]

I understand everybody’s different but I can’t put my finger on why I’m not included in group things. I have plenty of individual friends but if there’s group things I’m invited only occasionally and usually overlooked.

I definitely have imposter syndrome and feel like I’m in some way not enough etc but I’m not sure how to make better, more close friendships. Ones where I’m actually in the A-list.

Are you friends with everyone in the group meet ups? Do you work different hours/have different childcare issues that means you're not usually free and people may assume you wouldn't make it? Do you have a WhatsApp group for arranging group things?

It's really hard to say without knowing you but I know people in various social groups who are left out and they would have no idea.

One of them is very socially awkward, which I empathize with as I am too but she seems to have no awareness of it, another just takes the mick with asking for favours and palming off her wild children, another is a bit of a show-off and annoys people and is generally unaware of others' feelings, I know someone who interrupts people constantly to talk about herself and has no idea