To not want to do this?

[Peaches197]

To meet up with the guy I am speaking to for the first to, after he’s been drinking at a family do. That’s what he has suggested?

Assuming it will be more than a pint, I don't think that's a good first date and I wouldn't be doing it.

Yes, he said drinks

Yes, bit of a red flag too, possibly, unless he's said upfront he will take it very easy as he wants to meet you.

YANBU and to be honest the fact he thought it was a good idea is a red flag in itself.

Is he a big drinker?

No, don't do it. It would feel like he was squeezing you in, not making you important. A bad way to begin.

show yourself some respect and don’t meet him. He can take you out somewhere when he’s sober if he wants a date.

He wants a hook up, unless you have also been out drinking then I wouldn’t recommend meeting him tonight. When you are sober, drunk people are really annoying.

I wouldn't be meeting him at all. Ever.

Not a good idea.

He said he doesnt drink much. He went out this Saturday and then said he’s drinking at the family thing. Said it’s a big get together and they all drink and have food and that we can meet after as he’ll be out late.

It isn’t tonight, it’s the coming weekend

thanks for replies!

I think that's fine. Its just a quick drink

Absolutely not. He could be half cut.
Huge red flag that he would suggest it.
Disrespectful of you.

So for a first date he’ll squeeze you in after he’s been out all day drinking? Who said romance is dead?

If you say yes to this you’re settling your bar extremely low and telling him from start you’re ok with zero effort.

Its a huge no for me

YANBU.

He'll be out late after socializing and drinking....then meet you for a booty call? Unless that's what you're after, no way, what does he think you are?