Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

[JeffTheSquirrel]

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

I'm also wondering if there's something you don't know here. Perhaps the friend has told her mum you cancelled on her? Even in that situation though I can't imagine many people would ask for the cash!

Ooh is there a link???

Oh ffs she’s absolutely fucking batshit

Honestly, being nice diplomatic to that idiotic, entitled woman is more trouble than it's worth. She has the emotional maturity of a mollusc.

I'm sorry that it might impact on your daughter's friendship with the idiot's daughter, but I suspect that your daughter will be better off with it, particularly if her friend is being fed stories to convince her that she's hard done by.

Yo, I'm not giving you the money I already paid for this ticket. You want me to pay you an extra £50 on top of my paying for the ticket?

You might want a lead check on your water, hon.

That means NO.

"You're talking as if it's my fault she can't go on the outing?"

Or just... nothing. No response. Honestly, this person sounds so batshit that she will keep on arguing and never give up. Logic has no meaning for her, and she will never admit that she's behaving like a total fruit loop. Maybe best to just disengage altogether and leave her hanging.

‘That won’t be happening. Hope X gets well soon.’

This. Definitely. Do NOT say 'Sorry'.

I heartily recommend setting aside a few hours and reading the entire thread if you can; but to go straight to the posts about Mexican House Thief, search on the page(s) for username 'WeAreEternal'.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/mumsnet_classics/1735637-Have-you-ever-encountered-anyone-this-cheeky?reply=38590816

I’d say “ sorry cheeky fuckwit but as you didn’t take the ticket insurance out any losses for ill health, acts of god or Covid disruptions cannot be reimbursed. Please check the small print next time”.

Definitely don't apologise!

'I'm totally confused now and can only think there's been some sort of mixup. I bought the extra ticket so DD could bring a friend. It's a shame X can't go now, but you surely aren't expecting me to give you the cash equivalent for an event she can no longer go to?'

What a cheek!!! Never heard the likes.

Crack pipe 😂😂😂

I suppose in her head this was a present you gave her daughter and was still her daughter's, therefore when you sold it the money should have gone to her.

I think I would go with pointing out that you've already spent £50 on her child and you're struggling to understand why she thinks you should give her another £50. After all, it's hardly your fault that she can't go, and you've been put to extra trouble finding someone else to go.

At this point silence is the only way forward.

Couldn’t you just get the band/singer to change their tour dates so friend can come? That would be much less hassle than this. 😂

Unless there really is a huge misunderstanding this stinks of the type of parent who brings uninvited siblings to birthday parties and gets upset when there aren’t enough party bags.

I would say something along the lines of you didn’t uninvite her so there’s nothing to make amends for - and then suggest she makes amends to her own daughter by paying her own bloody money!

Do you think there’s any chance this is actually the daughter messaging from mum’s phone??

I would just say. ‘This doesn’t make any sense at all CF. If your mate went down the pub tonight and you couldn’t go, would you expect your mate to refund you the cost of drinks you never actually tasted?!’

"I'm confused as we've not gone back on anything. We invited your DD and she sadly couldn't make it and you cancelled. Hope she enjoys [whatever else she is doing instead] See you soon."

A couple of PPs have it. She thinks that the ticket was a gift to her dd and that in effect dd should have had the opportunity to resell the ticket and keep the money for herself. Instead, OP has had the benefit of CFdd’s ticket and therefore owes dd £50.
It’s nuts for sure, but I bet that’s her argument and she can’t understand why OP isn’t getting it - she’s genuinely pissed off with OP.
Fab CF story, best one for ages!

I'm just waiting for the thread..... 'DD cheated of £50'.... 😂

Your reply should be something like

"You have a very weird attitude here. If I invited you out to go to a cafe or pub on a day you were busy would you demand that I send you the money for the cake or wine you therefore don't get to eat/drink? That's really not how friends do things and not something that anyone sane expects"

Disengage and move on. She’s batshit or drunk. You will never, ever get her to understand how wrong she is on this one.

Enjoy the concert and forget it happened.

We invited Ella in good faith and she couldn’t come. Why does that obligate us any further? I think you’re forgetting that I bought and organised this as a treat for my own dd. It’s a shame Ella is disappointed but that’s life sometimes isn’t it? I will not be sending you any money and frankly I’m amazed that what was meant to be a nice gesture and a lovely trip for the girls has been reciprocated by such a transactional and aggressive request. I am also now very upset.