Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

[JeffTheSquirrel]

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

WTAF?!

I do understand where PPs are coming from with “she’d forgotten that she hadn’t actually paid”. I suppose I need to reference that in reply message. I haven’t replied to her yet, but I have to admit I burst out laughing when I got it.

C’mon MN, help me draft my response.

Hahahaha! This is incredible. Who the fucking hell would have the brass neck to ask that? This woman has reached new levels of CFery.

Is there a chance she sent you the money on Revolut or something? Maybe a ‘I’m sorry I don’t think I got that money from you? Did you send it on Revolut or bank account so I can send it back?’

This is crazy!!

As other posters have said, the only possible explanation is that the other mum has forgotten she didn’t pay anything.

I think you need to give her the benefit of the doubt and reply saying there must have been a mix-up and reminding her it was your treat so there is no reimbursement due. If she replies with anything other than “Gracious - im so sorry, I totally forgot!” - she is legitimately ridiculous.

PLEASE can you give us an update? Its baffling that these people exist - but they do and they have children and its her poor DD who will be negatively impacted (either due to embarrassment by her mother’s entitlement or not learning right from wrong and becoming a CF herself in due course).

No way, your treat was the show. Not going to it, no treat.

I had a go at drafting a response, @JeffTheSquirrel.

Basically just tell her you are happy to transfer back every penny she paid you for the ticket!

Nobody could be that much of a CF, surely!! I reckon she's forgotten she didn't actually pay for the ticket in the first place.

Just reply saying she must have got mixed up. You paid for the tickets.

Surely you just say "I'll refund you what you paid £0"

Are you going to reply?

I think I’d be inclined to say ‘I’m a bit confused by your text. You didn’t pay for the ticket, so I’m not sure why you would need a refund’

That is a whole new level of CF. It is so ridiculous I had to re-read the OP as it was beyond belief!

I read it as the woman wanted the £50 the OP would get back from selling the ticket, not £50 on top of the money spent on the ticket - so she wouldn't be £100 down. Not that it really makes any difference, though - as it's essentially still saying 'Give me a fairly large sum of your own money because I want to spend it on my child'!

That doesn't make any sense - the friend didn't pay for the ticket.

I wouldn't respond this this for a start and not give excuses, just point out that the money was for the ticket only which I paid for d can't go that's tough not my problem.

Reply with:

"Dear CF,
I'm a little confused - the ticket didn't cost you anything so not sure why I need to refund you? The spare ticket has now been put to use so won't go to waste. Sorry your DD couldn't make it."

You didn’t pay for the ticket Michelle. I did 🤷🏽‍♀️🤣

Hi CF, I'm confused. I paid for the tickets myself as a treat. I will be keeping hold of the money if I manage to sell the ticket. Hopefully, I can do something else with the girls another time.

"Sure thing. Just remind me how much you paid me for the ticket and I'll reimburse you 😊"

Fucking hell!!! Just when you think you’ve heard it all you read something like that and are completely dumbfounded all over again. Where are these people coming from? Like how is that personality type made?

And the only way to handle that level of cheeky fuckery is to block them.

She must be thinking that you were intending to give her daughter a treat which cost £50, and now that she can't go, the daughter is sad - so you should still give her a £50 treat. Even if you were getting a refund for the ticket, it is certainly supreme entitlement and right up there in the CF top few.

unless the daughter told her mum that OP wanted the money for the ticket? Mum gave daughter the money who just didn't pass it on to OP?

We need an update! Cf'ery of the highest

Yep CF!
I’d probably give her the benefit of the doubt and reply along the lines of “correct me if I’m wrong but I don’t think you paid me for the ticket did you? So probably easier for me to sell it myself to try and get some money back for it”

"I am sorry your D couldn't attend but as I paid for the tickets no refund is due"