Absolute CF. I know IANBU but sharing anyway.

[JeffTheSquirrel]

I bought 3 tickets to a show this weekend, for me & DD + a friend of her choice. I paid for them all (£50+ each) but told the mum of invited friend that I didn’t want any contribution. All good.

Now the friend unfortunately can’t make it (legit reason). I mentioned that I’d probably be able to sell ticket as it’s very popular, so no worries (as it happens, another friend has accepted a late invite).

The mum of original invitee asked me to transfer the cost of the ticket to her, so she can treat her DD for missing out.

Eh??

I mean that’s batshit, right?

Absolutely insane! Agree that she obviously thinks her DD essentially owns that ticket. Nothing you say will make her realise she's in the wrong here.
Just reply with "I have nothing to make amends for, it's not my fault X is now unable to come. I really don't understand why you think we now owe you money"

Such a shame when DC friends parents turn out to be dicks.

Just send her a link to this thread! Honestly some people are so entitled it makes my head roll!

'Make amends' for what, exactly? It's not your fault the kid can't go.

This legitimate reason for her being unable to attend is on them, not you. You might equally say you'd decided to treat her, spent a load of money on a ticket for her, and then been thoroughly let down.

I'm starting to suspect that her daughter's given CF a totally different account of what happened @JeffTheSquirrel .

Maybe CF's DD had a better offer, but when her mum wondered why she wasn't going to the show, made up a story about you or your DD uninviting her?

I'd just reply by saying " you're gas!" which is an Irish way of saying you are funny/hilarious. She has to be taking the piss, if not she is seriously deluded. Poor child!

😂

Bizarre that she expects you to pay twice - for the orginal ticket and now for a make up activity. If her child is so distraught then the mother can cheer her up herself. Bizarre. And unfortunately it means she is unlikely to get invitations in the future.

Make amends for what??😂
Follow on thread needed. She is bananas.

Your posts just made my blood pressure go up. What's this woman thinking?

I would finish the conversation "so you're asking me to gift you £50? That's very odd."

I'm going to bed now. Looking forward to more batshit replies from CF tomorrow.

Wow... not a I've seen a double rainbow wow... a, I can't believe the is real like wow! Geesh! Like WTAF

Amends? You offered her dd an outing which she said she couldn’t make. There are no fucking amends to be made!

You could say “Well as it’s not my fault she can’t go, clearly I don’t need to make up for anything”?

Dear Ms Entitled Much (?)

Oh of course, how silly of me not to realise that when I buy my daughter and her mate a treat, I’m automatically enrolling in the Emotional Compensation Scheme for Slightly Inconvenienced Children.

Absolutely, I’ll just transfer the £50 immediately, wouldn’t want little Princess Hard-Done-By to go without her pity McFlurry. In fact, shall I throw in a service charge for the heartbreak? Maybe a spa voucher for Mum to help her recover from the trauma of her child missing a freebie, through no fault of mine?

And just so I’m clear, next time I take my daughter and a friend to the park, and the friend can’t make it, do I need to send over £20 for the missed go on the swings too? Or should I PayPal it directly to Build-A-Bear in her honour?

Yours sincerely
Mrs WTF

Or

Dear Ms Crazy Tits

Oh absolutely... let me just fire up my Kindness Refund Machine!

Because clearly when I gift something and your circumstances change, it’s only right that I compensate others for their emotional distress at missing out. In fact, while I’m at it, shall I also send over a condolence hamper, a balloon arch, and a laminated certificate of disappointment? Maybe a £10 Costa voucher to soothe the trauma of not seeing a musical with my daughter?

I’ll even set up a GoFundMe to support all the other poor souls who’ve ever missed a free day out.

Whilst we're at it, how about invoicing Santa for the pony you DC never received.

Your sincerely
Ms FML

Good reply

I think the only reply is ' well you can pay for your daughter's treat out of the money you've saved on my thank you present".

I'm thoroughly invested in this now 😁

Might the penny not have dropped that you are still £50 down for the ticket, and you don’t have £50 now floating about? You had the £50 to blow and it was a sunk cost. There is no more money Available.

Just say, your actions have not contributed to her not being able to attend, in fact you tried you best to allow her to attend by inviting her free of charge to begin with. Therefore you have no amends to make, and I’d add that you find the line of questioning offensive.

Stop trying to not rock the boat, she needs to know she has fucked up and crossed the line

I think I’d be inclined to keep it really brief and straightforward and push CF into explaining because all of her replies are kind of opaque. So maybe just ask straight:

‘Amends for what?’

This is wild and I’ve been invested and distracted over to here on a rather sad day. Your responses are measured but I wouldn’t give Chicken F any more of your time. She clearly cannot be reasoned with and if this is who she is, I’d be thinking about what is next in line…

“No good deed goes unpunished”. I’d never really understood that saying until now!

I'm late to the thread (39 pages in a day?!) but yeah, this!
She hasn't actually paid anything, why would she expecting you to give the money to her?!
Trying to see it from her point of view, maybe she thinks as you were paying for her dd to go she thinks you'd transfer the money over to her so her dd could get to see it another time so she doesn't miss out if she was looking forward to it?
Not saying that's right as it's well cheeky, she seems to have lost sight of the fact that you'll have been paying for your child and hers to have a nice day out together! Not just transferring cash over to her if she can't make it! 😕

Maybe something along the lines of:

"There are no amends to make.

X was offered a ticket at my expense. The offer of a ticket (paid for by me) didn't come with an option for a refund in the event x couldn't attend. It is cheeky to suggest otherwise, and the phrase no good deed goes unpunished springs to mind.

As x is sad she cannot attend, perhaps use the £50 you didn't have to pay to me to fund the treat. Alternatively, I'm willing to transfer the £50 to you, but only after I receive payment from you for the ticket."