If your daughter wanted to go with a friend and CF’s daughter had cancelled but it wasn’t possible for someone else to come along then it’s your daughter who would be missing out and needed amends making to her.
If you then hadn’t been able to sell on the ticket then you are out of pocket and would ideally need reimbursement as it’s your daughter who has been let down.
I’d be going down that road if I thought CF would have any understanding. Does she think you are going to pay £200 instead of £150 for a night out she was just invited along to?
In my experience you really can’t reason with people like this though.
I used to buy Christmas presents for my nieces and my sister and BIL, I had no children so I’d really spoil them. One year my sister said as I spent so much that she wanted to wrap them up and say they were from Santa so she could spend less! I asked what she was going to say came from me and she suggested I buy another couple of presents to give them “from me”. She suggested it as it was totally reasonable and got my mum involved when I refused.
A few years later she came to me and said instead of birthday and Christmas presents that year she wanted money instead. This was in March and all her families birthday are later in the year. When I asked why she said she wanted one lump sum so she could book a family holiday! If I had gone along with this then I can guarantee she’d have still expected presents and I know her kids would definitely have not understood why they didn’t get Christmas presents so she was just trying to get me to pay for a holiday.
When we both got our inheritance she suggested I “donate” some to my nieces and wanted £10,000 putting in an account each.
My sister had money from our parents to support her all her life, weddings and cars and house deposits and I didn’t have any of those things.
I declined and said she was welcome to use her own inheritance but she said it wasn’t fair she had to spend money on her kids when I didn’t. She’d had this attitude all her life and managed to get my parents to agree.
In the end after I spent a couple of hours saying no she came up with a great idea that I’d put £20,000 in an account for her kids future there and then and she’d pay me back over the years. When I suggested she just pay the money she’d be paying me back into an account herself she fell out with me 😂.
The final straw before I went NC with her was when she wanted a new mobile phone but couldn’t afford one. She insisted her primary school aged kids were being bullied because their mum had “a shit phone” (it was a two year old iPhone) and bombarded me with messages. She fell out with her husband because his mum bought her own daughter a new phone for her birthday and my sister tried to get her SIL to swap with her.
When I started ignoring her texts she started calling my work phone and even texting my friends, I was so fed up I booked a holiday to escape her pestering for money.
The last call I took from her was just before boarding a plane and when I told her I was going on holiday she called me a nasty, selfish entitled bitch so I blocked her. She then messaged my best friend saying the same to her, when my friend asked why I was selfish it was apparently because I didn’t have kids and was just doing what I wanted.
We haven’t had any contact for years now and I often wonder how many people would have CF stories related to her. If she wasn’t blocked I’d put her in my phone as chicken fucker 😂.