To think I have to move from sheer embarrassment?

[Wowwowweewa]

I’m having new blinds fitted tomorrow so I was trying to move furniture but my sofa was too heavy. I knocked on next door and asked the guy there if he would t mind helping me.

He did, I thanked him and when we were done I offered him a beer. His response was- erm I better not, don’t think my girlfriend would be too pleased. I laughed and said something like “don’t worry, it was just a thank you” and he just said “yeah even so, best be off, have a good rest of your evening”

I don’t fancy this man, arguably he is attractive, definitely the goes the gym type but he’s not my type. But I feel so embarrassed now.

Aibu? I think my house will be up for sale and I hope the buyers enjoy the new blinds.

But the guy and the girlfriend in the OP's story isn't your DH and you, is it?

If your DH stayed with her while drinking the booze and eating the food and you were fine with it, that's great.

This is a different couple though.

@KissMyArt Think you've missed my point.

@Wowwowweewa Maybe I'm just really stupid, but I see absolutely nothing wrong with this interaction.

I think perhaps rent your house out OP, that will be quicker than selling.
wherever you are in the UK, move to the opposite end.

I think it was a nice offer, OP, and he declined it a bit awkwardly. Who knows, maybe he's at home feeling embarrassed too.

I’m reeling at the £5 suggestion!
Now that IS bonkers cringey !

‘’Here you go champ, fella me lad, no butts, here’s a fiver for your troubles ‘’

Surely a shiny sixpence would suffice! "There's a tanner in it for you, my lad" would have been my opener

Why was he being completely ridiculous? Maybe his GF wouldn’t like him to sit in a woman’s (that he doesn’t know well) house and have a beer, and he is being considerate to her feelings?

It’s annoying this his interpretation of the situation is now making you feel bad.

Draw a line under it and don’t let him make you feel this way.

All he had to say was no thanks - he didn’t need to say his reasons why he was declining. Don’t let his reaction make you feel bad or embarassed. Let them think what they want.

Followed by a wink, a pinch of the cheek, a hair tousle and a ‘be on your way now m’laddo, Dick Van Dyke styley !!

Don't move OP! I get why you feel embarrassed but most men wouldn't stay for the beer (because most partners wouldn't like it). Just chalk it up to lesson learned. If it helps he almost certainly found you attractive and that is why he had such a knee jerk reaction, but he could have handled it more diplomatically.

I don’t think you should be embarrassed OP. It’s him that is probably questioning his behaviour. I would say something similar like ‘Ahh thanks for that, can I get you a quick beer to say thanks?’ Totally normal. He should have just said ‘No thanks, I need to shoot’. Mentioning the girlfriend sounds really wanky.

Anyway, hold your own, smile and wave at him next time you see him, and do the same with his GF. You’re a confident, modern woman who can offer a neighbour a quick drink as a thank you, don’t sweat it.

I think it's one of those things that would be perfectly normal in some areas and cause gossip in other areas.

I'm teetotal but even I can tell you just offered a beer as a thank you.

It seems women always have to be hyper-aware of what they say being misconstrued as a come on.

I agree. I wouldn't think anything of it and I can see my mum offering the same and not thinking in a million years that could potentially be seen as her coming on to him, because she wouldn't be, so wouldn't see it that way.

Heard of anything called trust in a relationship?

get a grip

Were you shooting your shot or not though?

if you weren’t, then there’s no need to mull over this. he did you a favour and wanted to get home once he was done which is totally normal.

if you were, then rejection is tough but he’s seeing someone else that he’s interested in so it’s not really a reflection on you per se

As a pp said, he should have just no thanks, not implied OP was after something.

OP says in her OP that she doesn't fancy him and he's not her type.

Another one here who thinks that, if anybody acted more embarrassingly, it was him.

He reminds me of the character from The Fast Show who thought that everybody in the office was trying to seduce him every time they asked him to countersign a form or to borrow his stapler!

I presume you meant 'a beer' as in a can(s) or bottle(s) from your fridge/cupboard to take home with him? You didn't smoulder moodily about needing to cool him down as you chained him to the sofa whilst you 'slipped into something more comfortable'?!

Tsk ! You are behind the times. Prices have risen. She should have offered the gentleman a guinea.

We all do or say things we could have worded better at the time. It sounds like you both did in this case. You just wanted to say thanks and he probably just wanted to say no thanks. Just forget all about it and don't worry.

she went on to speak about a friends with benefit setup with a previous neighbour so it’s not outside the realm of possibility

I know it's no help now, but my youngish male neighbour helped me lift something when DH was away. I thanked him by buying a couple of beers and just dropped them next door. That's obviously purely a thank you.
As for your current embarrassment, it will wear off, just try to avoid him for a while!

OP, i don't think you need to feel embarrassed. He was polite and helpful to you whilst being mindful of his girlfriend's feelings.

So because she had one FWB relationship with a neighbour, she is now prowling after all her male neighbours?