To think I have to move from sheer embarrassment?

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I’m having new blinds fitted tomorrow so I was trying to move furniture but my sofa was too heavy. I knocked on next door and asked the guy there if he would t mind helping me.

He did, I thanked him and when we were done I offered him a beer. His response was- erm I better not, don’t think my girlfriend would be too pleased. I laughed and said something like “don’t worry, it was just a thank you” and he just said “yeah even so, best be off, have a good rest of your evening”

I don’t fancy this man, arguably he is attractive, definitely the goes the gym type but he’s not my type. But I feel so embarrassed now.

Aibu? I think my house will be up for sale and I hope the buyers enjoy the new blinds.

His mumsnet gf is composing an aibu about the cf neighbour who had the cheek ti najebthrm open their front door.

What a strange, subtly angry reply. Testing the waters get a grip.

What a weird man , I don’t think you were out of order offering him a beer at all , you didn’t offer him it naked from the fridge 🙈🤣

Yes, this. Quite reasonable to offer him.a beer. Assuming you hadn't quickly nipped upstairs to put something on from Ann Summers first 😅. He is the socially awkward one, not you.

Maybe his girlfriend doesn't like him drinking for whatever reason? Maybe he was supposed to be driving later?

Or maybe he was just making his excuses to leave as has things he wants to get on with at home, or just wants to relax at home and not made to stay at yours any longer than he has to.

I wouldn't immediately jump to the conclusion that he thinks you're trying to come onto him.

Then you just say "Thanks, very kind but I have plans later." Mentioning the girlfriend implies he thought it was a come on. Awkward of him.

I wouldn't give it much thought tbh! Nothing to be ashamed of, you've asked for help and he helped you, you were just being polite trying to return a favor and he declined. Even if he saw that in a flirty way (which I don't think you implied), it's on him, not on you. You were simply being nice and you know that. This is what's important here.

Offering £5 would be more bizarre to me 😂 thanks for the help, go buy yourself some sweeties

My cousin, aged 65 got rid of some scratches on my DM's car. She is his Aunt who he lives next door to. She asked him how much and he said £5, so she gave him £5.

Dh did a professional favour yesterday for male neighbour who offered him a bottle of wine no one involved thought it was a come on!

You were being nice, he had to go and came out with a lame excuse. He should be more embarrassed than you!

imho it was a cute, friendly offer. I’m quite sure you’d have offered the same to a woman who’d lent a hand, you sound like a nice neighbour.

he didn’t need to lay it on thick with the “I’m not single” thing — if he felt uncomfortable he could have just said ah no I’m ok but thanks.

id not be happy with the situation afterwards either, but don’t worry, embarrassment fades. If you remain consistently nice and friendly to your neighbours they’ll get the message that you’re nice and friendly! (Saying that, I can be a bit innocent/ naive with come ons/innuendo/ sex stuff, I’d have expected to watch a Netflix horror movie in your other scenario!)

I am intrigued as to what kind of sofa needs a man to move it? Don't most just push over the floor?

A massive fridge freezer...yep, can see help being required.
Sofa...nope...struggling....

Offering a fiver is absolutely golden.

I bet she tapes 50p to children's birthday cards and tells the child to not spend it all in one place.

Don't sweat it, OP. He made it weird, you just offered a beer.

Sounds fairly normal to me. It is in no way flirty, Its offering a drink. I would of assumed he must have a drink problem or something. It would never occur to me that someone could think it was anything other than a drink. Weird.

My sofa weighs a ton and I definitely can't move by myself.

Seriously? I find this completely bizarre.

My DP offers the bin men a bottle of Prosecco on Boxing Day. Does that signify that he is trying to have sex with them?

I bet he doesn't offer to sit and drink it with them though does he? That's not the same thing at all.

You don't have anything to be embarrassed about. By the sound of it he thought you meant drink it in your house with you, whereas you meant him to take it home. I'd have made it clear I made the latter after his response. Also, if his girlfriend has a problem with him returning home with a can of beer from you, then she is controlling and weird.

Men are physically stronger, no matter what year we are in. Just a fact.

It's very normal to offer your neighbour a drink I they have helped you.

Posters who think this is flirtatious - are you in a Jane Austen novel? Shame she didn't have an older relative there to chaperone!

hahaha! I cackling at the suggestion of giving him £5 - 🤣😂

OP- let this go, honestly. It's really no big deal at all and actually if you act embarrassed after this it really will look weird. You did nothing wrong.

Fancies himself a bit doesn’t he?? I don’t think you’re the one who should be cringing here OP. I also don’t see what’s so hilarious about bunging him a fiver - how long did it take to move the sofa - 30 seconds? It’s just a gesture, not the bloody going rate.

Mad thought, maybe OP drinks beer?

Don't feel stupid. Why are relationships for infantile these days? Two humans can have a conversation, they can even give one another a beer. Not being allowed to do things is weird. He sounds pathetic, my girlfriend wouldnt like it, who does he think he is. I think you have to follow this up by telling him you want to make sure he knows, you didn't have any agenda and dont find him in any way attractive. What a pathetic little man. I cant imagine being in a relationship like his. The weirdo who suggested giving him a fiver is clearly joking but why not give him a pound coin and say its for an ice cream, it sounds about his level 😀