To think I have to move from sheer embarrassment?

[Wowwowweewa]

I’m having new blinds fitted tomorrow so I was trying to move furniture but my sofa was too heavy. I knocked on next door and asked the guy there if he would t mind helping me.

He did, I thanked him and when we were done I offered him a beer. His response was- erm I better not, don’t think my girlfriend would be too pleased. I laughed and said something like “don’t worry, it was just a thank you” and he just said “yeah even so, best be off, have a good rest of your evening”

I don’t fancy this man, arguably he is attractive, definitely the goes the gym type but he’s not my type. But I feel so embarrassed now.

Aibu? I think my house will be up for sale and I hope the buyers enjoy the new blinds.

And she could have tapped the side of his face Tony Soprano style , with a hushed shhh and a sideways glances while stuffing aforesaid guinea into his top pocket.
Capiche!!

Then again, I could very easily imagine "Would you help me to move the banquette, kind sir?" as being slang for something quite salacious way back then

This comment is just making me giggle like all is very much not well with me!

The poster that suggested offering him £5 has me giggling uncontrollably on my nightly mumsnet scroll, why is it so funny?! £5! lol!

I don't understand why so many people here over-react so much. And how is it possible that you weren't embarrassed to knock on a stranger's door (I'm assuming he's a stranger) to ask for help, but were so embarrassed about a little verbal awkwardness.

Just write a little note saying "I just wanted to thank you again. Nice to have helpful neighbors" - with a box of cookies.

Why did you ask him to help you move the furniture? Why not another neighbour? You fancy him, don’t you?

What a ridiculous response from him. I cannot see why he said that.

I wouldn't give this a second thought on either side of the conversation, but if it happens again, as he gets ready to leave, ask him if he'd like a few beers to take with him as a carry out. Then it's clear that you're intending that he drink them in his own house.

That seems natural and friendly enough to me, but I'm sure some mumsnetters will find it rude / mortifying / chavvy / suggestive etc.

I will Literally be giggling till Wednesday about that post x

He might think that she's drugged the cookies to have her wicked way with him!

Exactly.

It makes perfect sense if he's a fit, strong gym bunny.

Maybe the neighbour on the other side is only 4'6" and in her 90s!

Talk about 1950s…why didn’t op ask another woman to help her move the furniture? Why did it have to be a man?

I'm showing my age here, but for some reason, that really reminds me of Henry Root - who would send people random mad letters asking them random mad things and then stick an unexplained fiver in (or it might just have been a pound note back then) for their trouble!

Op, I feel for you but you did nothing wrong, other than offer a kindness in exchange for one. I hate this type of thing where people make an issue out of nothing, like this plonker did. I'd be avoiding him like the plague from now on.

The way to look at these types of situations is this. What was the intention? When you can clarify with yourself that you meant no harm, then you can simply let go of that guilt or embarrassment. Through life there are plenty of people that will be wrong or misunderstand about us. But we can simply let them be wrong.

No it doesn’t.

I wouldn't worry about it too long, his GF will be on high alert now. 😅

Because furniture is heavy and men are strong. It’s not that complicated.

Imagine a woman posted here saying ‘my boyfriend had a beer round a female neighbours house just her and him. We don’t know her well at all’. People on here would be saying the man is in the wrong.

Because, generally speaking, the majority of men are naturally stronger

I think it's really forward to ask him to move your stuff tbh

The beer offer was creepy

I wouldn’t worry any more. You asked for help. Help was given and in return you said thanks and offered a beer. A big fuss over nothing. Don’t give it another thought

You have nothing to feel embarrassed about, hopefully he's at home cringing though.

Perhaps you should have just offered him a cuppa. What could be more unsexy than that?!😁
He's the one who should be embarrassed for assuming giving him a beer meant you wanted to give him something else - daft twonk.