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Original poster

To think I have to move from sheer embarrassment?

292 replies

Wowwowweewa · 19/10/2025 23:17

I’m having new blinds fitted tomorrow so I was trying to move furniture but my sofa was too heavy. I knocked on next door and asked the guy there if he would t mind helping me.

He did, I thanked him and when we were done I offered him a beer. His response was- erm I better not, don’t think my girlfriend would be too pleased. I laughed and said something like “don’t worry, it was just a thank you” and he just said “yeah even so, best be off, have a good rest of your evening”

I don’t fancy this man, arguably he is attractive, definitely the goes the gym type but he’s not my type. But I feel so embarrassed now.

Aibu? I think my house will be up for sale and I hope the buyers enjoy the new blinds.

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StressedImpressed · 19/10/2025 23:22

I’d die. But I’d never offer a beer to a male neighbour I didn’t know well (unless you know him) 😥 hope you have recovered sounds traumatic x

CharlieKirkRIP · 19/10/2025 23:22

A simple thank you would have sufficed. Offering him alcohol does seem like a come on.

StressedImpressed · 19/10/2025 23:24

also, did you mean it in a flirty way? It does come across that way

Crinkle77 · 19/10/2025 23:25

Don't even give it a second thought. He did you a favour, you offered him a beer as a thank you, he declined. End of!

menopausalfart · 19/10/2025 23:28

Maybe he thinks he's irresistible to the opposite sex. Silly bugger.

JDM625 · 19/10/2025 23:30

Is offering a beer a regular part of your life and something you'd normally offer people in your home? Was he supposed to sit in your house whilst he finished the drink?

TBH- I find it a bit bizarre. If I wanted to thank him and keep good neighbour relations, I might have offered £5 or gone around after given them a small box of chocs.

ReplacementBusService · 19/10/2025 23:31

Your best option is to get an estate agent around tomorrow afternoon and be willing to accept a really low price in order to get out ASAP. Hide behind the blinds until then. Keep them closed at all times.

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Wowwowweewa · 19/10/2025 23:31

menopausalfart · 19/10/2025 23:28

Maybe he thinks he's irresistible to the opposite sex. Silly bugger.

I used to live in a small block of flats and had a friends with benefits type thing with a neighbour. Both single and the same age (if relevant).

I text him to ask if he’d watch this horror film with me on Netflix. He said “ok, but I don’t want a relationship”. 🤣. I was furious, not because of the movie but because I didn’t want a relationship with him, like buddy you aren’t irresistible.

OP posts:
DancingNotDrowning · 19/10/2025 23:32

JDM625 · 19/10/2025 23:30

Is offering a beer a regular part of your life and something you'd normally offer people in your home? Was he supposed to sit in your house whilst he finished the drink?

TBH- I find it a bit bizarre. If I wanted to thank him and keep good neighbour relations, I might have offered £5 or gone around after given them a small box of chocs.

Offering £5 is bizarre not offering someone a beer.

don’t worry OP he’s the one who should be embarrassed for assuming you fancied him

PrincessofWells · 19/10/2025 23:33

JDM625 · 19/10/2025 23:30

Is offering a beer a regular part of your life and something you'd normally offer people in your home? Was he supposed to sit in your house whilst he finished the drink?

TBH- I find it a bit bizarre. If I wanted to thank him and keep good neighbour relations, I might have offered £5 or gone around after given them a small box of chocs.

£5 is an insult 🤨

KissMyArt · 19/10/2025 23:33

menopausalfart · 19/10/2025 23:28

Maybe he thinks he's irresistible to the opposite sex. Silly bugger.

Or maybe he's a decent man who's in tune with his girlfriend's possible feelings on the matter.

We'll never know but I understand why you feel uncomfortable now OP.

Original poster
Wowwowweewa · 19/10/2025 23:34

JDM625 · 19/10/2025 23:30

Is offering a beer a regular part of your life and something you'd normally offer people in your home? Was he supposed to sit in your house whilst he finished the drink?

TBH- I find it a bit bizarre. If I wanted to thank him and keep good neighbour relations, I might have offered £5 or gone around after given them a small box of chocs.

£5?! I’d have been embarrassed to offer him a measly £5. He’s not a child doing an odd job for pocket money 😂.

OP posts:
SparklyCardigan · 19/10/2025 23:34

I think you need to put some paper up to cover your windows while the new blinds are being fitted. You might happen to be doodling on the paper first, maybe even some writing, say "You're not all that Jason, calm down!". And then you just happen to put that side facing out. Could happen to anyone.

myfitbitisfucked · 19/10/2025 23:34

why are you mortified?
he’s the one who behaved in a completely ridiculous manner.
and as for some of the replies about offering alcohol in a flirty capacity, well the 1950s called they want their women back 🤣

menopausalfart · 19/10/2025 23:35

@KissMyArt If his GF feels that way, then she's the one with the problem.

KissMyArt · 19/10/2025 23:35

£5 made me giggle.

He'd probably get more than that if he went trick or treating on Halloween! 🤣🤣

I'd have given him a few beers to take home as a thank you.

myfitbitisfucked · 19/10/2025 23:35

KissMyArt · 19/10/2025 23:33

Or maybe he's a decent man who's in tune with his girlfriend's possible feelings on the matter.

We'll never know but I understand why you feel uncomfortable now OP.

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If his girlfriend had a problem with this scenario then the beer is not the problem

KissMyArt · 19/10/2025 23:36

menopausalfart · 19/10/2025 23:35

@KissMyArt If his GF feels that way, then she's the one with the problem.

Yeah maybe, but some couples have boundaries that they both agree to.

Either way, it doesn't automatically make him silly.

He sounds like a nice man.

CrazyGoatLady · 19/10/2025 23:36

His gf may be a dyed in the wool MNer who subscribes to the philosophy of never socialising with the opposite sex once you're in a relationship, so he probably figured that it would be too much trouble to have to explain at home. And if he assumed that a beer was a come on, he probably doesn't get out much!

wandawaves · 19/10/2025 23:37

I don't think you are the one that should feel embarrassed... it should be him, for automatically assuming you're trying to hit on him!

ToKittyornottoKitty · 19/10/2025 23:38

Wowwowweewa · 19/10/2025 23:31

I used to live in a small block of flats and had a friends with benefits type thing with a neighbour. Both single and the same age (if relevant).

I text him to ask if he’d watch this horror film with me on Netflix. He said “ok, but I don’t want a relationship”. 🤣. I was furious, not because of the movie but because I didn’t want a relationship with him, like buddy you aren’t irresistible.

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Well you were sleeping with him so it’s not like his assumption was totally random was it

KissMyArt · 19/10/2025 23:39

And also we can all imagine the response I'm sure, if a MNetter started a thread saying "The single woman next door asked my DP to help her move something heavy, and now he's in there drinking alcohol with her".

He'd definitely be in the wrong.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 19/10/2025 23:39

He thinks hes hot shit 😄😄😄 he needs to get over himself

You have no reason to be embarrassed xx

menopausalfart · 19/10/2025 23:41

@KissMyArt My DH helped my neighbour move into her house. She bought him food and booze. He didn't automatically think she wanted to have sex with him, and neither did I.

SixSeven · 19/10/2025 23:45

You should’ve styled it out and said “I meant a beer to take home with you, and here’s one for your girlfriend”

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