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Was i wrong?

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Notsomarryfloppins · 19/10/2025 09:36

Went out for dinner with 3 friends last night. I know 1 (a) very well, 1 (b) well and the last (c) is a really close friend of A and we've been out together 6 or 7 times.
I had suggested dinner to a and b. A invited c to join.

I turn up at the restaurant, I drove,
I see all 3 get out of Bs car.
I live 2 roads away from B and C. Literally 600 meter walk.
A is then on route to the place we were going, so no one would have gone out their way at all.
I said, 'oh, you should have said you wee driving, I would have caught a lift you'

B says 'you always drive, I didn't think to ask'

Yes, I have driven, maybe every other time we go out.....I offer and they all say yes. I dont offer 2 out of 3, its always open to all. I dont always want to drink, might have plans etc. But its not a weird 'thing' that I have to drive.

It made me feel like a weird tag along to the night I had suggested.

Am I being unreasonable to think they could have included me. Or atleast checked?

Yes im aware that is sounds childish, yes all grown women.

OP posts:
tilypu · 21/10/2025 05:39

Maybe they thought that, as you had invited them out you would have offered them a lift has you been going from home? As you didn't, they organised themselves?

Pinkbasketcase · 21/10/2025 09:08

I think this is the start of a shift in friendship. You will now start noticing different traits that you never once noticed before!

Izzywizzy85 · 21/10/2025 09:14

Nah, this was shitty of them. I don’t believe it didn’t occur to a single one of them to offer you a lift.

Hopingtobeaparent · 21/10/2025 10:15

@Notsomarryfloppins

I can see how this would feel, OP. Try not to read too much into it, but I’d also keep an eye on it. Maybe C isn’t as comfortable with you yet? Give it more time?

But yes, maybe a suggestion on taking it in turns to drive and all car share, see what response that elicits…. 🤷‍♀️

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