It appears to me, my love, that you are being financially abused.
His "very important job" is no more important than yours. He certainly shouldnt be in charge of all the decisions or demeaning you.
You are right that you dont need to rely on a man. Never rely on a man.
Pack up your horses, get your beautiful ginger children and daft ginger dog in their souwesters and pack up your wagon.
You got this my love.