They had 1 year relationship, he has ADHD and autism. How can I support him? He wants to go clubbing on his own. But he finds really hard to set his limits with drinking when he is upset like this. He went through a dark patch before meeting her, drinking too much going out most days, sleeping very little and had to pull out of Uni. AIBU to discourage him to go out drinking for sometime? He is just about to put his life together again and this happens. My heart hurts for him, he is understandably upset.