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Caught him in a small lie - discard?

31 replies

Hahavshdickdbvzvzv · 26/09/2025 20:52

So super low stakes but I don't know if I'm making a mountain out of a molehill.

been talking to a guy from OLD for a couple weeks, not met up yet but have messaged alot and had a few phone calls (not video calls)

he sent me a selfie earlier of him at the gym....except he already sent me the same selfie a few days ago.

I asked is that from today, and he said yes. But it can't be!

it's really stupid thing to lie about, I hadn't asked for a picture, but it's just the needless lying. Why say it was from today when it wasn't? Just seems so bizarre?

shall I just discard? It's such early days I think that may be the way to go

OP posts:
SheSaidHummingbird · 26/09/2025 22:16

I hate when guys send unsolicited selfies. Why? Life is busy, fun, stressful, chaotic - do you really have nothing better to do than take photos of yourself, browse them, choose one that you think is casual/ candid enough that it seems like you didn't take loads, and then send them out to your various contacts, and await approval and compliments? Really??

YumYa · 26/09/2025 22:19

AngelinaFibres · 26/09/2025 21:50

Same everything. Same clothes. Same pose if its a picture of him. Same things in the picture. Same exercise/ equipment.

NCF?

Bobiverse · 26/09/2025 23:01

ItsOnlyHobnobs · 26/09/2025 21:43

I’m so curious to know how you knew it was the same picture, was there a tv screen with the news in the background or something?

Um, if someone hands you a photograph of someone and then hands you the exact same photograph again, you can tell it’s the same by looking at them. Really not all that challenging.

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 26/09/2025 23:02

Is it possible he sent the original picture from the future?

RoamingToaster · 15/12/2025 21:25

Any update OP?

Anonanonanonagain · 15/12/2025 22:43

Ha yeah he is sending same pics and messages on repeat to loads of women. Being honest he probably took that pic about 7 years ago at the gym too and uses it as a 'lure'.

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