Never having sex again

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What age were you when you realised you never wanted to be touched by a man again and saw absolutely no value in a man choosing to be with you long-term?

I'm probably quite young to have come to this conclusion and the knowledge that I'll never have a romantic connection again fills me with joy.

Friends, my children, my home, my future all take my headspace up and it's such a beautiful contrast to spending my youth chasing men and hoping they would 'choose me'. It must all have been due to societal programming. I look back and realise I was always happier when I was single and not interested in someone romantically.

Being totally selfish (which is what it is) is fine but in old age your friends will die (several of mine have, in their 50s and 60s).

I agree that it's nice to do what you want to but in all relationships there are compromises and you take the good with the bad.

You also don't always need to do the same thing. I have friends who go on holidays without their partner and live their own life.

Seeing a man's interest in you as an insult is a bit weird tbh. Why would you experience it as an insult?

Excellent, I am 69 and looking forward to the next 25 years😁

My sex life ended the minute my ovaries stopped working at 45. I've not had any since. Im very happy.
Sex isn't everything knife. I manage a happy and fulfilled life without it.

I feel the same, mid-50s and not dated at all since ending my unhappy relationship with my kids' dad nearly 10 years ago. I can imagine wanting to be with and even have sex with a wonderful man who was perfect for me... but what are the chances of finding a genuinely nice man, who's not porn-addled, sexist, selfish etc and who I fancy and who fancies me, AND we're sexually compatible... I don't have time to search for this unicorn. If he exists he can come and find me but if it never happens I've made my peace with it.

I’m 35 and haven’t had sex in about 6 years or had any type of relationship and don’t plan on having any sort of relationship sexual or romantic again

40-ish, when my marriage ended. I have absolutely no wish to ever be with another man - that's no reflection at on my husband who is a good man, I just feel like the shutters come down at the thought of any other man now. I'm done on that score.

I'm not writing off any future relationships, but with women only, so it's slightly different - however the chances of that actually happening are very slim.

I was in my early / mid twenties. I've been having amazing sex with women since then (more recently the same woman, my wife) and it's bloody fantastic.

I also think I actively, subconsciously maybe at times, try and make myself less attractive so that im not having to deal with men at all. I dress scruffy, I dont bother with make up or skincare or style my hair, I'm overweight. I always tell myself its because I don't care about what people think of what I look like (which is true) but also maybe I'm making sure that I don't have to deal with being approached by men.

I’ve never felt like that (and don’t want to). After divorce after a long marriage, I missed intimacy/sex/touch etc terribly (just not with my ex, lol). Was single for a year, now have a BF. I hope we’re still intimate and having sex into our dotage! I can totally see why women don’t want a man living with them though. My BF still has his own place and although he’s at mine a lot, I do enjoy him not being here too. Silence and peace with my pets is a wonderful thing too.

I think I used up all my sex drive in my teens and 20s. I lived a very sex positive/'colourful' lifestyle. I loved the hunt, the chase, the novelty of different men....it was very, very fun.
But I knew I wanted children in a committed relationship. So I did that in my early 30s and it killed my sex drive. But it's not like I yearn to return to the life that I had, I couldn't think of anything worse. So yes 49 years old and could quite happily give sex up forever, but that wouldn't be fair on DP. Probably need to look into HRT.

What an odd take. Women should have sex they don't want because their friends might die young?!

Probably after I had my daughter as a solo mum. I always wanted a family and once I had one (albeit not in the way I imagined) I felt no need to pursue a man. Now I've hit middle age/menopause I can't imagine it at all.

I'm on preventative antibiotics, if you ever decide you want to get back in the saddle but have this issue. I have to take a Cefalexin after every encounter to prevent the inevitable UTI. Works well.

Except that’s not what that poster said, is it? 🙄

I feel exactly the same OP. Made a vow to myself to be done with relationships and sex at age 41.
I understand not every woman feels like this or will get to this point. I think the important part in your OP is that you have always been happier single. I’m the same, I’ve always felt stifled in relationships, even good happy ones.

Probably around my late 20s, I’m mid 50s now. It might be because I have never orgasmed from sex. I enjoy cuddling and the rush of feelings leading up to it but the act itself has never done anything for me.

Even the thought of cuddling a man in an intimate relationship sense kind of repulses me. It's so bizarre that there's clearly definable line between more interested in men v being more interested in women and that that line was not long after having a child.

Cuddling yeah.

exchanging bodily fluids makes me feel repulsed.

35. After being cut off like I was nothing by someone I'd known for 20 years and felt completely safe with. I have no interest in men, male company, sex, dating, none of it. I spend my free time with DD, family, friends or alone as I enjoy my own company. I can't think of anything positive about dating or having a man in my space and I don't want one in my bed either.

Thank you.

FGS Some people lack critical thinking.

Not what I said at all.

I said that if you set yourself up as a loner, which is how she describes herself, that's all well and good - my sibling is just the same - but as you get older you might need friends.

I didn't say you might need 'sex' or a prtner.

I am one of those people who doesn't feel attracted to men I don't have strong feelings for. I am happily married, but if that ever changes I don't see me having sex with anyone unless I miraculously meet a new love of my life.

I definitely do not chase male attention and never will. I don't get off on flirting and genuinely love having nourishing, platonic friendships with men and women. I think I'd be happy with that forever if I ever lost my husband.

I'm over 60 and I get recurrent UTIs. I get a UTI if I even think about having sex, so it looks like that's it for this lifetime. To be honest, I'm not really sad. I liked it ok when I was younger but I don't miss it now. My current partner isn't particularly interested either, it all falls a bit by the wayside as one ages - sad but true. Have loads of sex when you're younger would be my advice.

@neveradmit17 Heard of using topical, vaginal estrogen?
Most women post menopause need it regardless of sex or not, to keep everything healthy.

Look it up and see your GP even if you don't want or have sex as it means your vagina is dry/ walls thin and it could get worse.

I love this … thank you .. makes me feel positive that I will find love and intimacy again

Testosterone woke mine up again. It really is hormonal.