Never having sex again

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What age were you when you realised you never wanted to be touched by a man again and saw absolutely no value in a man choosing to be with you long-term?

I'm probably quite young to have come to this conclusion and the knowledge that I'll never have a romantic connection again fills me with joy.

Friends, my children, my home, my future all take my headspace up and it's such a beautiful contrast to spending my youth chasing men and hoping they would 'choose me'. It must all have been due to societal programming. I look back and realise I was always happier when I was single and not interested in someone romantically.

Surely who you’re having it with matters and changes the composition of it, at least a bit or we’d all be just having sex with the first man we passed in the street. Sex is sex is most definitely not the case (unless you’re a Bonnie Blue) and not comparable to eating a chocolate bar.

I know more than a few. More than a few who state openly they only have sex because they know no man would stay with them without it.

To be fair I'd be miserable with a partner who was disgusted by me too!

I’m well into pension age and I still enjoy sex with my lovely partner.👍 It probably depends on the relationship.

“Disgusted”?

@BunnyLake Surely who you’re having it with matters and changes the composition of it, at least a bit or we’d all be just having sex with the first man we passed in the street.

We weren't talking about whether the "who" you're having sex with changes things. Obviously it does.

We were talking about whether or not being in a relationship matters.

I imagine sex with someone I liked would be enjoyable outside of a relationship as well as in a relationship with that person. The positive side of a relationship though is that the women would probably have sex again.

Also one can have a sex life with oneself … masturbation, toys etc, no one actually needs a man (or woman) to have a decent sex life.

Exactly that. Which was my point further upthread when a few posters said they couldn't really care, they'd never ever had an orgasm anyway. I could probably live without sex with another person, but I'd still want an orgasm! Quite happy to give it to myself but that I would find very hard to go without.

Yes, for me it would be worse than a complete stranger because I have genuinely platonic friends. If you're platonic, you can't be non-platonic, but I accept that people are different.

"I also find the prevailing revulsion at all things sexual on MN to be quite peculiar."

It's a section of MN, it doesn't prevail.
There's just as much prude-shaming...

Whereas orgasms are a bit meh to me.
But touch. Now thats Something I’m missing. Not ‘sex touch’ as such, just touching, hugs etc… just platonic ones.

Which shows how different we all are really.

I’m married with a very average, lacklustre sex life. It’s a bone of contention.

I don’t think I’d ever be bothered about seeking a romantic connection or life partner again if this relationship ended. It’s too much like hard work. But I’d definitely sleep with men, in a way I never did in my 20s when I could, with wild abandon. I can’t see myself ever not wanting sex. But relationships are over-rated.

Nope, no interest in them either.

Always climaxed easily and repeatedly.

Still no interest.

Yes, in the past, right up to the ripe old age of 42 I did that. Now, absolutely no interest.

This is what's novel for me and why I made the post.

It’s incredibly obvious what you meant. Well to me anyway as I’m the same.. I haven’t had sex since I was about 42 too (now 48) and have no desire whatsoever !
And definitely no interest in ‘just sex’ with ‘no strings’…. I’ve never been one for no strings attached sex though, can’t think of anything worse actually.

Same here and that's exactly it, never again and would be fine.... but years ago it was so important. Just funny how life is isn't it.