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AIBU to chase final payment.

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JustAnotherManicMomday · 03/09/2025 21:24

Cut short ex has history of not updating maintenance when changes jobs in past. DC has stayed at college for 1 extra year and ex tried to claim he has left education. Ex has now claimed he stopped working months ago. (His the type to notify if its in his favour straight away and that would be). Now been told his shown evidence of no income but final payment was due and not made Monday. Going to tribunal has his social media profile still shows Employed and company still has ex listed as doing his role when Google search. AIBU to tell cms I expect them to chase the payment missed that shows it was due on schedule? End of the day I have to still support our child on my wages whilst he has apparently took months off work. His also took years out of his child's life as his involvement has been non existent.

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blondieminx · 03/09/2025 21:26

YANBU at all but CMS are so overwhelmed and enforcement is slow as a result.

JustAnotherManicMomday · 03/09/2025 21:27

Oh if it makes a difference we are talking about £550 a month here that would help do finish driving lessons and cover his college materials as I will clearly be doing everything this year.

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JustAnotherManicMomday · 03/09/2025 21:30

@blondieminx I can handle slow tribunal is 3 to 8 months. It feels harsh if his genuinely unemployed for that time but given his past track record I can't get my head around allegedly being out of work so long and not updating them knowing it would stop the payments.

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blondieminx · 03/09/2025 22:16

It took them ages with exH to go through enforcement. It’s painful. Did eventually get money through and he stopped dicking about with payments after that.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 03/09/2025 22:25

Can’t see why you wouldn’t chase it to be honest

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