My partner has a job where he leaves for work at 5am & is home by 6pm, 4/5 hours of travel all in all.
We do not speak, he does not do anything around the house to help, he falls asleep at 7pm.
some nights, he promises he will stay up even for just 30 minutes to talk, and he falls asleep every time either before, or less than 10 minutes in, sometimes while I am trying to talk/connect with him.
Hes a builder, there is no work unless in the city somewhere.
its not his fault, and I feel bad for complaining as he is working hard, but at the same time, this is absolutely not the life I signed up for at all, I absolutely hate it, I am extremely lonely, I also work & my child has behavioural issues & im raising 2 preschoolers.
if he wasnt here, financially it would be harder but ultimately it would make no difference, we sometimes chat on the phone for 5 minutes on his break in the week, and thats the most we speak