another wedding one

[famtoxic]

I've name changed for this one, but I have been on MN for years. We booked a weekend away back in january for end of this year, last week, my brother messages that he's getting remarried and yep, its on the exact same weekend as our weekend away. We aren't close, never have been. In fact, I am the black sheep of the family and have been treated very differently to everyone else (but thats a different thread). My mother has been on the phone insisting that I have to cancel my weekend away and she will reimburse me because it doesnt look good if Im not there. I will not be cancelling, its no one's fault the dates have clashed and it is what it is. Im being made out to be unreasonable, am I being unreasonable? would really like your opinions please.

Surely this has nothing to do with your weekend away? You don’t like your family, don’t go to the wedding.

This, I'd personally cancel

Shes already said why

I wouldn’t cancel. And I wouldn’t expect someone to cancel a weekend away for my wedding. “Cancel your planned and looked forward to weekend away and come and celebrate meeeeee!”

But then, I’m not fussed about weddings, only had a small one myself, and missed my sister’s wedding for a reason I’m sure half of MN would have deemed unacceptable.

I would try to make it work but you certainly didn’t want to so why asked here?
Your mum wants you there I won’t blame her for this, she wants her children to have good relationship probably?

If you aren't from a toxic family, you dont know how lucky you are. I am and i could write a book on whats been done to me and i get that some ppl on here will never understand. Thank you to everyone who's contributed to this thread, but i'll leave it now ive made my mind up.