To think colleague does fancy me

[Teachingmum1]

Work at a large university in the town my colleague is from and I am from the neighbouring city
have a colleague who is in the same department
he’s divorced and has a few issues with his eldest son and his mental health and has had a few issues at work
I’ve supported him with these things
spent time outside work

earlier this year I hinted at something more and he said he just wanted to be friend s
fair enough

however
I just don’t believe him
he texts me ,smiles at me constantly ,stares at me ,others have commented on this .
I had an issue with a male colleague and he actually approached him and had a word and told others how annoyed he was by this.
would I be mad to suggest something more again?
I don’t want to get rebuffed but I do really fancy his
neither of us are young either
I’m 45 and he’s 51

He has verbally told you he just wants to be friends. Respect that.
If the gender roles were swapped and you as a guy said you didn’t believe the woman when she said she wants to just be friends, it would be totally unacceptable for you to dismiss that. Don’t push it.

This is bang on. He sounds like a Derek Trotter.

He had his last day today.

and messaged me at 7pm to ask me out on a date.

so

IWBU
🤪

Talk about mixed messages. I would avoid. Is he definitely single?

How did you respond?

Yes he is

Yes

Oh lovely. Hope it all goes well

Sorry to revive your old thread but just interested how the date went and if you got together?
I have been going through something similar and would like a positive story to help get me through!!

Perhaps read the thread.

I think that because he’s a colleague, I wouldn’t.

You asked, he said no. End of.

Think about how this would look the other way round - a male colleague refusing to take no for an answer from a female colleague.

I agree with you, but just to point out that this is a resurrected zombie thread and by now she has either (a) had a shotgun wedding and is living in bliss somewhere in the Cotswolds or (b) gone on a solitary date with him and realised that outside of work he is a complete weirdo with a full collection of Ewok action figures who he takes to bed with him at night... "Night night Wicket W. Warrick, sleep tight" big kiss and insert the same for Logray, Teebo, Chief Chirpa, Paploo, Lumat, and Kneesaa.

I'm half asleep and am idiotic. I reported my own post as it's clearly not relevant.

It's my fault for resurrecting a zombie thread in the hope of a fairytale ending!!

Well it is nearly Valentine's Day! 💕