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Racist neighbours trying to start

26 replies

Persisnmum9090 · 23/06/2025 18:04

Right, we live ona new build estate half of us are in council houses other half are renting to buy, there's a clear divide between us in terms of the majority who own their houses are non British and by that i mean they moved here recently chinese indian etc, those of us in social housing are a mix of black white Asian Somalian.

A group chat was started and a few of us was invited by one of the families who own their house, mainly was used for break in cctv and stuff occasionally argument from one woman on there called T×××× who complained about cat was poo gone in her garden and she couldn't let hwr kods outside bevause of it and accusing neighbours of purposely making cat pooh in her garden.

This woman stated she didn't think council tenants should be in group she thinks she is better thqn anyone though she loves in middle of 2 of the shall we say bubbly council estates in manchester(im born and raised here i jist dont rhhink im beyter than anyone else), then she stated saying council kids should not play on her end of the road, council houses mixed all throughout the 3 road estate so not sure how that wpuld be possible or why.

She made quite a few racist remarks before whixh she gets called out on but then anyone who calls her out mysteriously disappears from.thw group chat.

The she made a comment about the half caste kids and she knows its my house.... well my kids are mixed as am I, I privately messaged her as she dosent speak fantastic English and pointed out there's certain words you can't use they racist she then went on group saying she bullying me she is racist she knows i not English and she know I not be racist. Im daughter of 2 immigrants so nope not racist next thing admin kicks me out group.

With 10 minutes 3 or 4 others are then kicked out because they screenshotted quite racist comments she had poated in thw group about my kids the kids across the road her next door but 2 amd woman at end.

Turns out admin was her husband.....

husband came to my neighbours door today banging on trying to throw his weight round saying we must apologise for saying her racists comments were racist, next door in very cheerful manchester fashion told him to do one at which she has now messaged myself next door and the other 3 thrown out the group stating she is calling social services as she feels unsafe due to us....

There's 100 more to this such as her husband letting her sons walk up and down estate they about 3 or 4 running in gardens next door had her ornaments kicked over and flowers pulled up across road had her plant pots stamped on, but not one of us blame the kidsits dads fault he walking them he should watch them when presented with ring door cam footage she always denies its her husband and her kids but you can see clearly it is them

What exactley do we do with this she isn't allowed outside by husband so it not like anyone can talk to her and explain it not OK using racist language in England and id you private message her the husband suddenly ly calls screaming

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FrodoBiggins · 23/06/2025 18:06

I couldn't completely follow your post (sorry) but can you set up a new whatsapp without the racist woman and her husband?

Pollqueen · 23/06/2025 18:14

As above. Set up an alternate group chat and ignore her

tripleginandtonic · 23/06/2025 18:15

Well.if she doesn't go out the house and mix she probably doesn't realise terms like half cast aren't commonly used anymore and are rightly seen as racist. I'd let things slide though, all this drama isn't healthy.

Persisnmum9090 · 23/06/2025 18:16

Yeah we have done it more what do we do with the racist bwhabiornans the comments about council tenants can't play outside 😆

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hattie43 · 23/06/2025 18:16

the whole thing sounds horrible

Persisnmum9090 · 23/06/2025 18:18

That's why I privately messaged her and said it isn't realised she could have a language barrier as did one of the other mums, then hwr dh turned up and started kicking off.. he soon left bevause thay neighbour is very blunt, im so confused how to handle it because surely they would understand racism is wrong they not white im assuming they had racist comments like ourselves aswell

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AbzMoz · 23/06/2025 18:20

You (meaning you and your other reasonable neighbours) keep playing outside. Use and enjoy your home and estates, reasonably and in a way that doesn’t give her cause to complain (she’ll be Hawkeye on any litter or whatever)
document and report any threats, racists remarks etc
the sooner they realise they are not the voice of the estate (in their mind they are probably the voice of reason) then they will hopefully keep their behaviour in control

Persisnmum9090 · 23/06/2025 18:20

It really is horrible last year husband turned up at mine saying he knew my black kids dropped rubbish outside proceeded to show me a ring door bell footage of 2 Somalian boys about 17 I've got 2 girls and a boy all 13 and under who mixed just the language he uses is vile

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ColinCaterpillarsNo1Fan · 23/06/2025 18:22

Send screenshot of the racist comments and criminal damage to the police, they can deal with it.

The term half caste isn't politically correct anymore, please use mixed heritage or mixed race instead.

Persisnmum9090 · 23/06/2025 18:22

We tried that we had a street party for the coronation all permission from city council local coinciller and newspapee came he stormed over at 3pm kicking off saying he was reporting us to police, none of the kods are bad it normal stuff such as boys riding scooter etc. Bit he allows his 2 little ones to trash gardens and then says so what they children

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ColinCaterpillarsNo1Fan · 23/06/2025 18:23

Which race is the racist woman and her husband?

Persisnmum9090 · 23/06/2025 18:24

Im.well aware that that term is racist that's why im angry they used it to my kids and me we all mixed race we dont have a caste system.in UK bit sadly the pair of them insist.on using it

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PonyPatter44 · 23/06/2025 18:24

So they're a pair of racist twats who aren't British themselves, is that it? Why dont the rest of you just make your own WhatsApp group and leave Mr & Mrs Reform to their own group? Eventually they will have chucked everyone else out anyway!

Persisnmum9090 · 23/06/2025 18:24

They both Indian from what I can work out

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ginasevern · 23/06/2025 18:24

Every nationality and colour has racist people amongst them. It's a total misconception that only white people can be racist. In fact some of the greatest and most dangerous societal divisions are in non-white parts of the world.

Persisnmum9090 · 23/06/2025 18:25

PonyPatter44 · 23/06/2025 18:24

So they're a pair of racist twats who aren't British themselves, is that it? Why dont the rest of you just make your own WhatsApp group and leave Mr & Mrs Reform to their own group? Eventually they will have chucked everyone else out anyway!

Love this 😆 🤣

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MiloMinderbinder925 · 23/06/2025 18:25

Keep any messages and get a video doorbell and CCTV installed. You could report to both the council and police.

Persisnmum9090 · 23/06/2025 18:28

MiloMinderbinder925 · 23/06/2025 18:25

Keep any messages and get a video doorbell and CCTV installed. You could report to both the council and police.

I've got eonf door bell across road has amazing cctv he wont turn up at mine i doubt bevause when inatywmpt.to challenge him on his kids trashing my ornaments he soon scarpered saying they only kids... I said yes but.toir an adult and your in charge it down to you, im not blaming a 3 and 4 year old half the time they on bloody road whole.he on his phone walking 10 metres behind

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TheFormidableMrsC · 23/06/2025 18:29

I would report racist language/messages/behaviour to the police. Take advice from the council. Start a WhatsApp group/community page without them and absolutely ignore them. Any damage caused by their children can also be reported. They sound hideous.

Persisnmum9090 · 23/06/2025 18:31

ginasevern · 23/06/2025 18:24

Every nationality and colour has racist people amongst them. It's a total misconception that only white people can be racist. In fact some of the greatest and most dangerous societal divisions are in non-white parts of the world.

Of course they do im mixed i had it from both my parents family and they all hit roof when I got.married to a black man it just thay a mixed brit we all have a much better understanding of racism and consciously try not to do it so seeing it from someone who isn't British it takes.me.by surprise sadly i shouldn't be shocked but there you go

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Persisnmum9090 · 23/06/2025 18:37

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English ist 1st language i do have dyslexia though

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ColinCaterpillarsNo1Fan · 23/06/2025 18:53

Persisnmum9090 · 23/06/2025 18:24

They both Indian from what I can work out

Report them to the police, screen shot their vile racist comments and let the police deal with them. It'll give them a shock if they think they're a law abiding couple, they might lose their jobs if they have a criminal conviction.

SpryCat · 23/06/2025 19:27

Report them everytime they are racist, get a ring doorbell or camera so you have proof of their kids wrecking gardens.

Dangermoo · 23/06/2025 22:37

This is awful x