To get in touch with an old friend?

[Sundaycoffee]

We met in college and were inseparable from when we were 18 to to 30. We had a fall out when she started dating an ex of mine (a short relationship of about 3 months). It's been 9 years and I still think about her and wonder if I should get in touch. She actually ended up with my ex and married him and had a child. Has anyone else contacted an estranged friend and it worked out or is it best left alone. She messaged me on Facebook 3 years ago saying she missed me then deleted the message shortly after, so not sure what to think.

You’ll never know unless you try.

That’s literally what Facebook is for!

I fell out with a friend for 4 years, messaged her out of the blue last year and apologised for my wrongdoings/faults in the fall out and we're going on a spa day tomorrow so it's always worth a try ☺️

You should get in touch. The fact it's on your mind means that she still means something to you. If you don't try, you'll never know. Then in another 9 years you'll still be wondering.

There were other complications within our friendship and how we communicated (she expected a lot more from me than I could give) so the dating my ex was more just the icing on the cake but now I'm thinking we have probably grown up and matured so potentially it would be different this time around (assuming now she has a family she won't be as demanding in a friendship)

That's amazing! Update on how it goes please!

@Sundaycoffee we have met up many times since then and all is good! It's like we never fell out. The point is that this time next year you could be really close again! Even if you're rejected or she prefers not to be friends again, you won't have any regrets and think what if x