Would you be annoyed if a relative bought a house 3 doors down from you without telling you?

[Housequery1]

That’s it really, you bought anew house and a few months later a relative buys a house a few doors down, without saying a word. Would you be annoyed? Or would it even bother you?

My sister lives over the road - my husband & her partner say it’s like living in a ‘bloody commune’.

We love it 😂

Depends if I liked them or not so it could be brilliant or an utter pain in the arse.

I really don’t see what your preference has got to do with someone else buying a house!

I do understand you buy a house in a neighbourhood you know and like, but why wouldn't you tell your cousin who allready lives there? He/she is bound to know it soon enough so why not have them hear it from you?

I'd be over the moon, your lucky you've got family, a lot of people would be happy to have a family.

I would be annoyed, but l wouldn't feel like l had to see anything of them outside of family gatherings.

slightly different scenario as I did get a bit of a heads up, but mother and father and law decided it was a good time to come househunting near us - just two weeks after I had lost my mum whom I was very close to (she lived in a little annex on our house and died after a short battle with cancer and she was only 69 so it was a huge shock to say the least) .

At the time, my in laws lived over 100 miles away so you can imagine my surprise when one Saturday i had gone for a walk round the village with my young kids to clear my head thinking about Mum, only to return to find my grim laws sitting in the annex that my mum had been living in - her grave was still warm as they say.
there they were, sat with my husband having a cup of tea and telling him about the house they had gone to see at the end of our bloody road!!

He knew and just ‘forgot’ to tell me. I was livid and he and I nearly split because of it -

I couldn’t get over how insensitive it was, sadly they did end up moving eight months later to a house two roads down but I made it pretty clear that I did not want them rocking up all the time, they never helped (and still never offer) with the kids and expect my husband to go over there at weekends and guilt trip him if he doesn’t.

Depends: niece or nephew? I’d be thrilled. Brother? Not bothered either way. Sister? Not happy at all.

Context needed, what relative is it, are they someone you really have an issue with, do they even know you’ve got a house there?
If the house is a nice price and nice area, they are free to buy it of course without telling you!

Couldn't care less , nothing in my daily life would change unless I wanted it to .

Agreed. Except I might have mentioned it en passant when I saw them but if I didn’t see them that regularly anyway, what does it matter? Nothing’s going to change, is it?

Sorry but I’d be thrilled- I see nobody here because I live so far away. I know I’m an absolute outlier and can understand being pissed off too

If it was one of my cousins or aunts/uncles I'd be thrilled.

If it was my sister...I'd gazump the bitch.

Absolutely furious. In my view, relatives are best living a minimum of 100 miles away!

Deceitful about what? I don’t have to ask any of those questions to her at all. I’m the person buying the house. I don’t OWE her anything. She only owns one house in the estate. I just don’t understand your reasoning for using the word deceitful.

because to me buying a house isn’t that simple and things can go wrong. I don’t like to tell people about things until it’s done deal. Then I will tell her. I absolutely will tell her then.

well then, that doesn’t really matter because we already live in the same town. I would just be moving closer. 😅

Yes, I agree that's it not been mentioned at all.

Well, she’s going to notice the removal vans on the day you complete, isn’t she?

If I got on well with them, it would not be a problem. If I didn’t like them, it could be more problematic.
I think the not saying anything to you is a bit odd, though.

Context is - I am the relative 🤣 and no, we don’t have an issue with each other at all. And yes, it’s a very nice house with very nice price. And I absolutely love it.

Sorry, replied to wrong post

It’s an absolute brand-new build there’s nobody else living there so getting the keys and moving in won’t coincide completely.

Yes, I agree that it's weird that it's not been mentioned at all.

I would be really pissed off with this. A close relative moved into our village and my husband and I were unimpressed to say the least.