Would you be annoyed if a relative bought a house 3 doors down from you without telling you?

[Housequery1]

That’s it really, you bought anew house and a few months later a relative buys a house a few doors down, without saying a word. Would you be annoyed? Or would it even bother you?

They have no need to ask as they are well aware of what the place is like as they used to live in the town themselves when they were younger and they had in fact viewed the houses before. Before you even bought yours as such. Iyswim

I’d be horrified. And I would think it was bizarre of them not to have discussed it with us beforehand.

I would hate it because I value my privacy hugely but at the same there's absolutely nothing I can do about it.

I accidentally click YABU I meant to click you are NOT being unreasonable! Unless this is someone you really like sounds so annoying argh sorry OP

I would t care unless they’re intrusive or expect my life to change for them.

But you don’t own the housing estate 🤣

Are you the ones buying the house?

Why would they expect that? 🤣

I wouldn't care at all.

Ahh I see OP you are the relative. This is a reverse. If you only see them at family gatherings and aren’t that close I don’t see it as a problem.

Yes 🤣

In this case I can’t see it being an issue? Doesn’t sound like there’s an expectation to hang out all the time

Oh you’re the one who has bought the house close to the family member who already lives there?

I mean probably not as close as we used to be but we were growing up. But family, work etc you know the story

You never know they might be really pleased.

What's your reasoning for not mentioning it to the relatives? Surely you must know it comes across as weird to do it all with so much secrecy?

Some people do. We had relatives move nearby thinking we will be regular childcare and they can pop in whenever they want to chat etc. made it clear quickly that ain’t happening. Still live nearby but we barely see each other, as was before the move. No bad feelings.

Good lord no, not at all. It’s my hometown, I would be there somewhere to be fairy

Fair not fairy 🤣

You’re going to get very mixed responses here based on how people feel about their own relatives, but agree with a PP that - even if you do get along - if the first you’ve heard of it is when they’ve already moved forward with purchase, then it’s weird at the very least. You’d think they’d ask what the area was like and how you get on there in order to broach the subject with you. Is this a reverse post by any chance?

edit: sorry, read further down and realised it is, indeed, a reverse. If you’re asking the question, then I think you know that it’s a bit unusual really.

I wouldn’t mind at all if it were any of my relatives.

I just wonder why you didn't say anything? Not ask them for permission, of course, but it just seems a bit bizarre not to say something. But I probably wouldn't buy next to a relative unless it was my mum.

Because I’m still waiting for mortgage offer etc…no point until thats done imo. I don’t need to ask for permission as such…

No one's saying you need to ask for permission or anything though but it comes across so oddly and almost deliberately deceptive to do it all in secret.

No the area is already my hometown, I don’t need to ask any questions. I’ve lived in and around the town longer than them to be honest. I am the one buying the house