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Men and their Reddit account

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Cartwrightandson · 15/05/2025 06:22

Not sure how to word this...

If your husband/partner has a Reddit account...

Check that he's not chatting sexually to women on there, sending d pics, sexting, it'll be in the chats

Also that there's so many married men who claim to be in dead bedrooms (not had sex for ages). Sometimes they are lying, and it's been weeks or months, not years.

I've honestly lost count of men who are married/partnered, sending DMs, d picks, specifically don't want to pay/access OF/paid for content, so try and start sexy chat with random non OF women.

Are they trying to avoid paying because they can't afford it? Or don't want it to appear on bank statements and get caught.

It might now show in their profile what they have been commenting on, subscribed to.

I think it's extremely disrespectful to their wives and partners. So soon as they are alone. They message. If their wife's are upstairs in bed, they are elsewhere messaging. They do it in the car, are work, taking 1 hour on the toilet? Who is he messaging.

They complain that they aren't getting enough sex or any at all. Their wives are menopausal ect, tired, make no effort, no interested, low libido.

I think to myself...maybe you aren't good in bed, maybe you should help your wife with the house/kids? Instead of messaging other women work on your relationship, communicate with each other.

Be more involved, take the initiative? Loose weight because you are obese and maybe she's no longer attracted to you ? Being whiny and demanding sex isn't sexy either.

But what if they are still having regular sex. Then he's obviously lying, but also cheating and being undermining her.

Discord, telegram also get used for messaging.

There's a subreddit called deadbedrooms, they are all over their complaining.

I've had to block, turn off chat ability and delete and make a new account . It's been very eye-opening

OP posts:
UniqueLilacSwan · 21/12/2025 06:44

I can confirm. I have posted on the dead bedrooms sub and I got so many DMs from men trying to start up a conversation in order to initiate a sexual exchange. I went on the site for support for my own sexless marriage, but got quite a few private messages from thirsty men. It’s overall not a bad sub and there are loads of ppl discussing the situation. But, if a woman posts most likely she will receive several unwelcome DMs on her chat from married men. That was my feeling as well-that these are men preying on women in a sexless marriage for sexting instead of paying a woman on OF. If this does occur, it is against the rules of the subreddit and you can report them to the mods who will ban the men from being able to post or DM in the future.

PissedOffNeighbour22 · 21/12/2025 09:23

My ex-h was on Reddit being a weirdo. I didn’t know what it was and clicked on the app on his tablet - saw all sorts of shite he’d been posting. Begging for sex basically. I googled the username and came across other stuff.
Of course he lied and I found out even more stuff which he then lied about again.

good luck to his new wife as she’s also fallen for the ‘what a lovely bloke’ act he does. Wonder if she knows he made a request to Google to have his dick pics removed 🫢.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 21/12/2025 09:26

It's not unique to Reddit. Quora is just as bad and I'd hazard that this type of person is also all over Facebook and any other forum they can find.

I have yet to have a dick pic from the Fortean Forum mind...

IhateHPSDeaneCnt · 21/12/2025 09:48

You would think MN would be a safe Forum but you can't post anything vaguely alluding to bedroom 'issues' (apart from how many times do you was wash your sheets) without getting PMs from the likes of Brian, from Hull offering services of magnificent Manhood - as evidenced by lack of any previous female interaction but mighty, preference arm.

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