Is this me having a pity party for one?

[Molly2008]

So I'm going to a break up been about 5 months. Ex reached out yesterday I was upset and messaged close friend.

She asked if we could chat on phone today and then after listening to me for a bit she said well at least we have XXX to look forward to.

Even though she knows I don't want to do this specific event but agreed to organise for her Bday. AIBU to be pissed off that in my moment of crisis we have to go back to talking about her?

Yabu. She tried to cheer you up.

It is and YABU

5 months??

YABU - your friend is trying to help

I suspect after five months, most of what can be said about your ex which might help you through the breakup has been said. “Block his number and keep on being strong, you’ve got this far, keep on looking to the future and better things, you’ve got this” is about all anyone can keep reiterating - and it sounds like that’s more or less what she did in encouraging you to think about stuff to look forward to.

If you’d broken up last weekend you wouldn’t be unreasonable to expect more extensive support, but you either a) got that at the time or b) you didn’t and that’s the issue you need to focus on, not the recent chat.

Breaking up 5 months ago and you're still in a moment of crisis?

Get a grip.

Not only unreasonable but also very selfish.

You’re taking the piss if you’re still allowing your ex to contact you and drive you into hysteria five months down the line.

she was trying to cheer you up and frankly shes probably bored of you whinging about your past relationship. Give yourself a shake love.

How was he able to contact you, if contact from him = 'crisis' I would have thought he'd be blocked on everything?

Block your ex.

But I agree its pretty shit of your friend to try and gee you up with the idea of organising an event for her. Yes, she could talk about the things you have to look forwards to...but this doesnt sound like one of them!!!

YABU She was trying to cheer you up. I suspect she feels shes said everything she can on the subject after 5 months. I agree, block the ex

Yes it is. Block the ex. Apologize to your friend, and move on

Yes your friend was being unreasonable OP

i had a friend do something similar so I get how it feels