Random man sleeping in same house as DS?

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DS aged 6 goes to his dad's for 1-2 night per week.

His dad has a housemate, a man, who I have known since I was a child so I am fine with this.

When I picked DS up this evening he randomly mentioned that a new man has moved in with them. I don't know this man, I asked who he is and he shrugged and said "dunno, he's my friends's mate, he's a professional chef".

AIBU to be really uncomfortable with this?

Uh, absolutely, yes! Don’t let your DS stay until you have a lot more information.

Ah well he's a professional chef...that makes all the difference 🤯

Bump

Not ok.

Yes I'd just be shutting that down straight away to be honest.

No not ok at all.

Ask his dad? Or don't you trust him to have done some checking?

Does your son share a room with his dad when he stays there? I would be a more concerned if he was in his own room overnight, but if he sleeps in his dad’s room it’s less of a concern.

If he’s like any of the chefs I’ve known, he’ll hardly be in the house, and when he is he’ll be asleep.

Do you think he might be a sex offender, and do you trust your ex to keep your child safe ?

The man sleeps in DS' bedroom and then when DS is there he sleeps on the sofa.